I hear it all the time. Women who want a nice guy who's kind, honest, faithful, etc. They're describing ME, but I'm always overlooked, so I don't think you really want that kind of guy.
2007-03-04 14:28:30 · 15 answers · asked by lonely_nice_guy_1976 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Katter - If I met you I probably would come up and talk to you, but seeing as this is the internet I'll probably never get the chance, which is a shame. But I read your last question and I hope things worked out with the guy you were interested in, but if it didn't you could always email me ;)
Quiet Storm - I have integrity, I'm neat, clean, I can hold a decent conversation and I'm a hard worker (I work with people with learning difficulties). I even put the toilet seat down when I'm finished (impressive, I know. lol). But I'm still overlooked.
Indira B - I didn't mean girls have said this to my face, I've just seen a lot of questions on here asking where the nice guys are. Plus there are countless newspaper and magazine articles about it.
2007-03-04 18:26:25 · update #1
Wasup - When I say I get overlooked I mean as a boyfriend. I've got female friends who know I'm a nice guy, who say things like "You'll find someone special and they'll be so lucky to find such a kind and caring man." But that someone special always seems to be someone other than the person saying it.
nendlin - I don't let all the negative stuff come out when I meet someone. I'm far from depressing in a social setting, I'm actually a cheerful person in the real world.
witty - "be pateint there is a nice girl out there waiting for a nice guy like yourself" You make it sound so easy. I've met nice girls who were looking for nice guys like me, but it's always girls "like" me, never actually me.
2007-03-04 18:52:34 · update #2
angel_ast75 - True, there is no such thing as "perfect", but no one is really looking for the perfect partner, if they were then everyone would be single. But the most important things women say they look for are actually my best qualities! But I'm not perfect, I don't look like a male model, I don't have a six-pack and I'm not rich, so maybe these are the qualities that are more important.
2007-03-04 18:56:56 · update #3
because they don't want their heart broken
2007-03-04 14:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by Emiline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One year ago I had resided my self to the fact that I would be single for the rest off my life and that women are lying cows when they say they want a nice guy, as I am one off the nicest guys around, would never raise my voice to a lady let alone a fist, a romantic streak a mile long and was brought up to treat a lady with respect and love.
But the same as you women would tell me how perfect I am then sleep with some tattooed **** who would treat them like crap, then when it all went wrong they would come crying to me for comfort which I would do being so nice then once again go for the slow life pond scum.
But recently I have meet a girl as nice as me, pretty as can be with the everything I could have wished for in a girlfriend, this all happened out off the blue when I was not expecting it. and It has knocked me off my feet, i am now the happiest bloke in the world.
Trust me if I can find the women off my dreams anybody can, I am now 33 and it has taken all this time for me to finally find somebody who makes me happy, and makes me in return want to make happy.
Keep on searching, and I wish you all the luck in the world, I am sure us nice guys need some good luck!
2007-03-04 22:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by Loader2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it boils down to the fact that everybody wants to find the perfect partner, be it male or female....
Realisticly, there is know such thing......
Yeah there may come a point where you might find the ONE, but i doubt very much that they are absolutely perfect..
I have as i put it the one, Hes kind, caring, honest, faithful, good looking, good in bed, but hes not perfect, He's a constant moaner, and drives me mad over stupid things....
But i suppose what i am trying to say is, no one os perfect, but you just have to learn to live with those imperfections....Hense the reason i married him....
2007-03-04 18:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by X_Angie_p_X 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me share something with you. People (men&women) usually want what they can't have. The fact that you're very available emotionally & physically might subconsiously make women think they don't really want you. I've observed this with many of my female friends/aquintances. I've also experienced this myself. When I was most emotionally unavailable that's when I had the most guys wanting to commit to me. When I say commit I don't mean a monogomous relationship I mean marriage. It's kinda messed up but it's what I've observed. Maybe try playing hard to get. I know games suck but it might be worth a try. People ususally like to go for the "prize", if you're too eager to be caught by the opposite sex it might make you unappealing. Good luck!
2007-03-04 22:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women want nice guys who can treat and respect them well. Unlike most trashbags out there who treat women like dirt.
(srry for saying this)
Nice guys are hard to come by, but in your case. You should be yourself, show them that you ARE nice.
Go get their attention(try not to do anything foolish) , get social.
If you're overlooked that that usually means that they don't know you. So how would they know if you're nice or not? Go get them to know you.
Hop this helps in any way =)
2007-03-04 14:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by =HIO= 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly...it's because they are morons and have no idea what it is that they are looking for. Women are the most hypocritical creatures on the planet. Not saying guys aren't at times but at least we know we're shallow enough to want someone who is blazing hot. They just like to hide behind the whole "I'm innocent and looking for true love act." At least that is the case until they are ready to settle down.
2007-03-04 14:34:06 · answer #6 · answered by Justin G 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We always want guys who are outgoing too. I mean we always like guys to take the initiative. We find that important. If a girl describes you to your face maybe she trying to tell you something, huh? We say we want a nice guy cause we don't like to be two-timed, abused, or hurt in any other way.
2007-03-04 14:36:18 · answer #7 · answered by Indira B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im with a nice guy:) took me a long time 2 find him though lol i dated the badboy type of men b4 and it was nothing but heartache and stress! now im relaxed, secure and happy!
so be pateint there is a nice girl out there waiting for a nice guy like yourself ;)
they say ''good things come to those who wait'' *wink*
2007-03-04 15:51:04 · answer #8 · answered by witty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
darn, i know how you feel. i'm sorry. i really do want the nice guy, but haven't found any of integrity. i would take the nice janitor over the arsehole lawyer.
as long as your appearance is neat, you're clean, hopefully you can have a decent conversation, you're a hard worker, it's all good. honest.
2007-03-04 14:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by Debt Free! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart your a lovely guy but you sound defeated.Youre bound to have put that across so youre convinced it wont work from the start.so youre kinda telling them dont bother.be that nice guy and bite your tongue when the doubts and ive been hurt start coming.play it right and you wont get hurt or used expect it and it will come.go find her hun make her happy so youll be happy too
2007-03-04 14:38:31 · answer #10 · answered by nendlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What women WANT and what they are actually ATTRACTED to are not usually the same thing. Just like men WANT nice girls but we are ATTRACTED to hot girls. Get the idea?
2007-03-04 17:18:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋