Is my boyfriend cheating on me?

Question

My boyfriend keeps getting calls and emails from gurls. One showed up at my door asking for him, and asked me if i was his sister or something, and when i told her that i'm his gurl friend she kind of gave me a panicked look. And I keep finding condom wrappers under my bed that are definitly not mine. Is he cheating on me?

Well i know the condom rappers aren't from us having sex because i'm a virgin. We've decided to wait for marrige

Well I forgot to mention that his brother came to stay with us for a week so I don't know if the condom wrappers are from him or from his brother, so that's why im asking cause i can't just jump to conclutions.

Answer 1

He's a cheater! Dump him and find someone that respects you!

Answer 2

I am going to take the gloves off and be brutally honest with you. HE IS CHEATING. The likelihood of the condom wrappers under your bed belonging to anyone but him is very unlikely. I am truly sorry if this hurts you, but do not turn the other way from this fact because ignoring what you know in your gut is true will only hurt you more in the later on. This hurts tremendously now, I know. I was once in a similar situation. But here's the thing you must keep in mind: If you move on without him, and do it in a self-respecting way, I promise you will gain more in self confidence and love for yourself as a human being. And yes, it will hurt for a little while, and there will be times where you will miss him like you've got a hole in your heart, but I swear you will move on to really become yourself and love your life because it isn't filled with anxiety and doubt like it is now. And I don't mean to be crude, but I really want to be honest with you: don't screw him thinking it will strengthen your relationship. Sex is a great and wonderful thing when two people consent to it AND really feel the same way about where the relationship is really at (whether it is a friendship with benefits, a dating relationship, or a marriage). That is up to you to decide what you want to experience in your life. By the way, he is a pathetic liar. If he's a minor, then he has a LONG way to go before he will ever walk like a man. If he's an adult, then he's a very little man who is insulting your intelligence. And those girls are being strung along by him, too! It does you no good to get angry with the girls. They aren't taking him away from you, he's a dog in heat running to the closest humping post. DO NOT sleep with a cheater. Condoms don't prevent all diseases from being transmitted, nor pregnancy. If a guy lies to you about sleeping with other people, who's to say he's not lying to you about having a sexually transmitted disease? And beware, not all STD's are visible to the naked eye. Or what if you get pregnant, then you find out he's someone else's Baby Daddy too, and then he walks out on you because he's hooked up with someone new. And don't try to rationalize to yourself that he goes to church, or that he has the same values as you.....a liar is a liar. And if you let yourself get dragged along hoping he will return to you, that pain will negatively effect you and a new relationship in the future because you've been a doormat. A real man likes a woman who has self respect.

Answer 3

If he were just getting calls from girls, I would give him the benefit of the doubt and say that he had friends....but if girls are showing up at your house asking for him and thinking you are his sister, then he definitely has not shared that he has a girlfriend. Plus, where else would the used condoms come from darlin'? I mean, this guy sounds like a total jerk if he will cheat on you in your own home and not even clean up the evidence. Don't let him drag you down. Just move on and find someone that loves you for the person that you are :)

Answer 4

Girl that man is cheating on you big time!! He is leaving his evidence all around. Obviously he really doesn't care becuase if he is leaving condom wrappers everywhere, which means he doesn't care if you find out. Dump him and find a man that will at least have the decenty to tell you that you guys need to break up because he can't be faithful to just one woman!! DUMP HIM!!

Answer 5

Follow your instinct...it's not normal to find condom wrappers under your bed. And don't be afraid of what the truth has ahead...wouldn't you want to know now how he is then after 10 years? Talk to him, he will prob be a chicken and deny it, only you can fell if he is lying.

Answer 6

well i think u need to just open up and ask him about cuz there may be a very good explanation 4 all the things that have been goin on and all and then just kinda try to figure things out like getting his password 4 his emails and goin thorugh his phone and calli the girls hes been talkin 2........1 sure way 2 kno if ur man is cheatin is if hes alwayz accusin u of it.....just remember that and good luck!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Well, ya he is I am sorry to say. About the e-mails and calls maybe some are just friends or maybe they can be his sister or family member. But, the condem rappers under the bed he cheatin alright.You should ask him and if it true you need to brake up with him you can do better.

-Desree'

Answer 8

LOL GURL DO U NEED ANY MORE PROOF THAN THAT, I THINK U KNO THE ANSWER AND YOU'RE JUST IN DENIAL, WAKE UP! U KNO HE IS CHEATIN, CONDOM WRAPPERS COME ON SWEETIE, STOP BEIN NAIVE, IF THEY FROM U, THEN U KNO WHERE THEY ARE COMIN FROM

Answer 9

Unfortunately it sounds that way. Try confronting him with all the evidence you have. Maybe he will surprise you and come clean or he may convince you that there is nothing going on. Either way I'd find out.

Answer 10

yes he's cheating on u u better watch out.it seems that he's not honest with u otherwise y there r so many condoms under ur bed? question him first b4 u keep on going with him.

Answer 11

You definitely shouldn't jump to conclusions, but don't be too quiet about it either, if he's understanding ask him about it in a nice cool tone, if he gets to panicky or too paranoid then something is most definitely up