I made the biggest mistake of my life my sophmore year in high school. We went on this class trip and boys weren't aloud in our room, but my friends and i let my bf in and we all just started making out. I'm now a senior and I changed so much! I feel absoulutely horrible for what happened, and I'm deadly scared that if someone finds out I'll be kicked out of my school and won't be aloud to graduate. (private school) The thing is I did that at my old school, and my current school is going to the same place we went with my old school and other schools to the same plac and I'm scared someone will find out. I know this sounds really immature, but I was at that time. I don't know what to do, I don't want to see my mom dissapointed in me, and I know that she is going to be when she finds out. Not to metion my whole family, and my little sister who definetly looks up to me. What should I do, I think about this atleast once a day and beg God to forgive me everyday, sometimes more than once.
2007-03-04 14:16:18 · 12 answers · asked by Christy 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Young lady,
Congratulations on your growth spurt. This is life, you live and learn.
You are fine and your feelings of guilt are understandable but not necessary.
Good luck to you because you sound like a respectful young lady.
2007-03-04 14:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mr realistic...believer in truth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Situations like this can be freakish and stressful. I completely understand. Seriously though, I'd be surprised if anyone actually remembers the incident, and the likelihood of them ratting you out are slim.
Having said that, if you went to a different school your sophmore year, your new school can't kick you out for something you did at the old school. Not to mention that was two years ago, and they have zero proof.
As for your mom and your family and sister, I doubt they'll find out, but if you and your mom are close enough, maybe you should have a heart to heart with her. Tell her you've changed and then come clean. You'll feel much better on the inside. You don't need to tell your little sister, but if the time ever seems right, you might help her learn through your mistake.
Finally, God forgave you the first time you asked. I think you need to try to forgive yourself and move on. Take the lesson with you, but don't let it hang over your head. Have an awesome time on the trip.
2007-03-04 14:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you are worrying too much over something that probably will not even happen... People grow up and I am sure if you explained to your mom what happened (before she finds out some other way) she will still love you no matter what and also respect you for telling her the truth. Believe in yourself and stop living in fear. It sounds like maybe you go to a Christian school and you are afraid of what they might think if they knew the truth. None of us are perfect and it matters what we are doing with our lives today not last year. People change. Forgive yourself and what is most important you have prayed for forgiveness.
So you made a mistake know move on!
2007-03-04 14:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jan W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would anybody find out if it was at an old school? Doesn't that mean that you are with different kids now? And if so then who would know? Unless you say something. And if the place you go to says something just play dumb and tell them you don't know what they are talking about. You are older now. That's behind you. People make mistakes. Pretend it wasn't you and get on with your life. Put it behind you. Just don't make the same mistake twice. At least wait till you are out of school.
2007-03-04 14:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by Me2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what, the past is the past. If you have changed, you have to take responsibility for what you did, but also, you don't have to act suspicious either. We all make mistakes and adults understand that. If you ask God to forgive you, then you are forgiven. Don't take back your apologies by doubting yourself.
2007-03-04 14:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by iso chronous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may suffer from a variety of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) called "scrupulosity". Persons with this variety fear that they have done something gravely wrong and that God will punish them or something terrible will happen. The compulsion is to pray excessively and seek forgiveness from God.
To find a professional close to your area for an evaluation, got to http://www.ocfoundation.org and use the referral service there.
Best,
-- Liam
2007-03-04 14:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by almcneilcan 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're a kid and it's okay to make mistakes that don't really harm anyone. You are being too hard on yourself and if there were no wittnesses how would anyone find out? And if someone knew about it and ratted on you how could it be proven?Paranoia will destroya
2007-03-04 14:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christy, I think the best thing you can do is learn from your past, accept responsibility if the situation comes up and allow others to realize that your not the inmature person you were when you had allowed your b/f into the room. Acknowledge that your embarrassed by your actions. It will allow others to realize how much you've grown up.
2007-03-04 14:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Quit beating yourself up!!! You're young, we've all made mistakes, more than likely everything will all work out, and you won't disappoint your mom or your sister at all. Forgive yourself
2007-03-04 14:21:07 · answer #9 · answered by rocketgirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did all you girls make out with the one guy, or was it just you and him making out? Did you trust your friends? Do you trust them now? Are you still together?(BF) These are some questions you should ask yourself. Relationships should be personal and what you do with them between you and the guy.
2007-03-04 14:19:46 · answer #10 · answered by Tom K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋