My divorce will be final this week...obviously time to move on. The problem is that so much of my energy is being consumed by sadness over the divorce and anger at the happy couple who have no responsibilities...I'm raising his kids and his mom is paying his bills. I'm so tired of my own negative emotions, which so are not me, but I don't know what to do to rid myself of them. Please don't advise me to get a hobby, as I've already so much to do on which I'm unable to concentrate.
2007-03-04 14:11:12 · 3 answers · asked by ophelia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well, the only thing i can tell you is it gets better with time. your going to think of them less and less everyday. but it will take time. time to start thinking of yourself and what to do now. not him or his mom or (ahem) her. just you and your kids. remember you first though. kids bounce back. they need to know who will be there to catch them when they fall. take care and good luck to you.
2007-03-04 14:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation 5 years ago only it was my grandmother-in-law. I was so depressed and hurt I could barely function. That wasn't the worst part, loneliness drove me to drinking or taking some kind of pm pill or Benedryl just so I could go to sleep and not be lonely for a few hours. As it turned out I had two very good male friends and my best friend who saved me. They had to MAKE me go with them one night a week on a group "date". I soon had something to look forward to, before long my self esteem grew I started dating again. My ex regrets leaving me for his now 2nd wife and has even tried to get me to run away with him. The pain I used to have is now enormous relief that he is an ex because he is a hateful person when he drinks and that is when he wants to call me and talk "trash" about his wife. I now thank God for that divorce.
2007-03-04 22:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by nanatoseven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok Girl,,
You’ve done enough of the “hate stage” of your divorce. Divorce is like death,, it’s the death of the relationship n’ you are destroying yourself with this hate.. time to move on to the next stage, self preservation!
You have more important things to worry about like,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, YOU and your kids! it may sound weird,, but if you forgive him,, you WILL free yourself which is the MOST IMPORTANT !! Right?? It don’t matter a whit who pays donkey boy’s bills,, as long as you are receiving your monthly child support!! Which will allow you to care for your kids. Right??
Sorry I’m so tired,, I could give a lot more information….. if my eye’s weren’t trying to slam shut..
2007-03-05 01:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋