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Major Boy Issues!?
I have been flirting with a guy for 2.5 years and in the past 8 or 9 months we have been heavily flirting. We finally hooked up one night and I ended up getting pregnant. I told him about it and he poured his heart out, telling me that he had all these plans to buy a house, and slowly introduce himself to my kids and so on, but that he didn't plan on it happening so quick. He wanted to have his life together before he started something serious. Nonetheless, he said he was behind me 100%. I opted not to keep the baby. Then he slowly started backing off. I asked him about it and he told me that he really likes me and wants to be with me, but not yet. He still calls me all the time to hang out and even blew off his friends to hang out with me on his birthday next week. I just don't know what to think. I am way too sensitive to be used, but if thats not the case I dont want to walk away from it.
2007-03-04 14:01:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to say this with the most caring "voice" that I can, but that is hard to do in writing, so here goes:
I think that you should probably NOT date while you have young children in the house. It is very confusing to them to have a male father-type figure come in and out of their lives and it is better for you to focus on them rather than this man. I am sure that he does have feelings for you, however, maybe he sees the value in you keeping your family as it is right now, especially since you all almost extended that family. I think that it is okay to accept the friendship that he gives to you, but expect no more than that and you will never be disappointed. Please be careful with both your life and that of your children.
2007-03-04 14:08:54 · answer #1 · answered by Rascal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, you got rid of the baby and still expected for him to be all happy about it. I think the advice should be for him to run the hell away from you. How could you? You have children at home so you should know how precious a child is. Then again maybee you don't, while this guy seems like a nice guy, you should NEVER bring a man into your house when you have young children. Haven't you ever heard of children being raped? My God you definitely are not the mother of the year, and all you can think about is keeping it up with this guy. Grow up and start acting like it.
2007-03-04 23:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by wisv2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You screwed up and tried to trap him buy getting pregnant. He may have felt the way you wanted him to at some date, but you jumped the gun and drove him off. He got lucky in throwing a hail mary and you bought it hook line and sinker. Good for him.
The problem is he now knows that you are willing to trap him to get him, not a good thing to know. This is why he is keeping some distance. Of course that you are willing to put out is a plus in keeping him around too. He will stick around since you have something he wants, easy sex, however as soon as he finds someone new you will be history.
Best for you just to move one and stop trying to find a daddy for your kids.
2007-03-04 22:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the best advice i can give you is not to sleep with this guy, and if you do use protection. he's obviously not ready to be serious. that doesn;t mean he doesn't care about you, it just means he cares more about himself...(most men do) how old is this guy? if he's over 25 and still hasn't reached his goals they might be more of an excuse not to settle down...follow your heart, but always respect your self, and make your own decisions. good luck
2007-03-04 22:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by strbrite 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really hope you keep they baby. I really do. And he probably was hit by this news so quick that he got whipflash and started freaking out. Dont worry....it will all work out in the end. Just belive.
2007-03-04 22:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by Alex C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I think you might need professional help, you need to mature more. I think he may have backed away because you didn't keep the child. Did you consult him about it? Do you know his views on abortion/adoption?
2007-03-04 22:06:47 · answer #6 · answered by 43372 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't walk away...RUN LIKE THE WIND! This guy is bad news and you will have only heartache from him. He is feeding you one line after another. Don't be desperate....send him packing
2007-03-04 22:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to ask. anybody that is willing to kill for this should be locked up. even better the same should happen to you
2007-03-04 22:05:36 · answer #8 · answered by thang1and2 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
stay with him
it is obvious that he loves you
2007-03-04 22:05:30 · answer #9 · answered by jack+ie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he obviously loves you. you should stay with him.
2007-03-04 22:12:16 · answer #10 · answered by loveya1092 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋