My ex and I broke up about three weeks ago and when I brought up the whole friends with benefits thing he said no and that he was not attracted to me anymore. All his friends tell me he still attracted to me. The stuff we did while we were together was amazing and I know he thought that to. I am really not trying to get him back but just want to be friends with benefits with no strings attached at all. What could I do to get him to agree to be friends with benefits?
2007-03-04 14:00:44 · 19 answers · asked by Cali4niadreaming 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Re-assure him that this isn't a ploy to get back together, that you really want no-strings fun.
Maybe you should give it a few more weeks. He may still not have fully recovered from the break-up.
2007-03-04 14:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he said no then he meant it. Just move on to someone new. By the way there is never a relationship where there are no strings attached when it comes to having benefits.
2007-03-04 22:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by f_jayce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would examine why you want to be friends with benefits. I would ask myself do I still like him? Because, my guess is that you do still like him or else you wouldn't want to be friends with benefits. I think that you should maybe give him some space, then if he seems alright with it I would try to get back together with him. I hope whatever it is that you do, it's the right thing and also good luck!!!!
2007-03-04 22:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by saxplayingsurfchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not attracted then give up on him. He probably knows he can have you whenever he wants or he is seeing someone else. Ask him if the reason is that he is interested in someone else. when you care about someone it gets too complicated to be friends with benefits, if they start to see someone else jealousy is usually involved. If you want friends with benefits, do it with someone that you don't have feelings for. But, if you just can't stop yourself, invite him over and seduce him. Fix yourself up as hot as possible and show him what he's been missing.
2007-03-04 22:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by joayle78 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't get him to agree to do anything. It's only been three weeks since your break up, he might not be ready to even consider your proposal, there could be a lot of reasons why he doesn't want that. The best thing to do would be to move on and find someone new.
2007-03-04 22:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by Panda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, His friends might tell you one thing that probably isnt true. They might be telling the truth... but at the same time they might not. As for him agreeing. You can maybe give him a sense of what he might be getting into. Tell him what he might get if you are in this "No strings attached" deal. If he goes for it... then he does. If not... then find someone new.
2007-03-04 22:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing really...you can't make someone want to be with you. At the same time, he may be trying to get over you and having this type relationship may be hard on him. Just because it's "no strings attached" for you doesn't mean he feels the same way.
2007-03-04 22:04:14 · answer #7 · answered by PlanJam.com 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're using force then it's no use. He's already voiced his mind, why are you being so persistent? Just let go of it.. and be good friends. If things decide to go for a better turn, then it will. Otherwise this will just strain ur friendship
2007-03-04 22:04:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go 2 his house and b naked but cover yoself wit a trenchcoat and b like u sure u dnt wanna b friends wit benefits den do him wen he say yes hahahaha
2007-03-04 22:03:49 · answer #9 · answered by spongebobslady2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't - sexuality is a beautiful gift from God intended for married couples.
Enjoy your friendship with him! Some people can't even be friends with their ex's, so just enjoy your friendship.
2007-03-04 22:04:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋