I'm in a foster home right now and they aren't mean to me but they said they don't want to know anything about what happend before I started staying with them. I tried to talk to my school councelr before but he won't take any time to talk to me and my social worker is too busy. i stopped talking four days ago and no one even noticed that i haven't said a single word. I'm used to being ignored, but it still makes me sad everytime it happens again. When will I stop being sad about it and is there any way to stop ? I'm tired of being such a little kid and needing people. Will i grow out of it?? When i get more mature will it be easier to want to keep to myself? I just want to know that it wont last forever.
2007-03-04 14:00:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
It sounds to me like you are one smart person! You don't say how old you are, but you sound like you are very rational and very bright. You do need to speak to someone, a friend, a neighbor, a teacher,a preacher, someone, since the others do not seem like they are stepping up to the plate as they should be doing. Focus on the future.....start thinking what kind of career that you would like to have, that is truly attainable that you would be happy doing, and work towards that goal. Studying is a great tool to take your mind off of things. Hang in there, and always remember, the day will always be brighter tomorrow.
2007-03-04 14:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by rocketgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey i know just what your dealing with I've been there,and tell you the truth being raised in foster care most of your life and then nobody will take a second of there time for you it stay with all Thur your weather you see it or not and about the stop talking thing i bet your the one ever body picks on so you shouldn't expect people to notice it yes once you get older the sadness gos cause you become immune to it try using a daily journal use it to excess what you need..
2007-03-04 14:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by kitty kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would hope never. I know things are really bad at the moment, but not everybody is as self centered as alot of these people sound. That doesn't mean there aren't quite a few people out there hwo only care about themselves, but there are also good caring people too. I'd be nothing without my friends, and i'd like to think they need me to an extent too. Interaction is part of being human. I really hope things get better for you. Just don't give up on needing people entirely. We're not all bad :)
2007-03-04 14:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by Daryo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone needs to be needed or loved, or think they are. Some more than others. All you can do is be pleasant and don't try too hard. Some people don't like to be pressed or pressured. There are a lot of lonely people and there are some that would just like to be left alone. I know this doesn't help much. but that is how it is. Look at the lonely stray dogs and cats out there. Look at all the old lonely people who aren't cute anymore and have no one. Think of the future. There is a chance this is only temporary and things will get better, and they will.
2007-03-04 14:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by jekin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello sweetheart, i just want to let you know that you don't need anybody..I know you need adults to take care of you until you get old enough, this is true, but you are the most special person in your life and you should know that nobody can be as good to you as you can be to yourself.. whatever you do, just know that what you are going thru or what you went thru is not your fault.. you are a child and you are a victim of your circumstances.. don't let it get you down because some of the most successful people in the world started in foster care.. just know this.. life isnt easy , you will have issues sooner or later, so its good that you have survived the worst part..You will grow from it and develop into a wonderful man and all these people are going to be wishing they could have taken time in your life.. if you ever need to talk to someone you can talk to me. i know i am a stranger but i am 20 y/o and i have dealt with similar issues.. ladyrae_20@yahoo.com be strong !!
2007-03-04 18:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal to need people. It is one of the things that makes us human. Talking to friends, family, peers, is something that calms us. Makes us feel loved and needed. It is certainly not immature to feel this way. Sadly, if this keeps up, you probably will become less dependent on people, and most likely, secluded. It's human nature to put up a shield on things that hurt us, or make us feel bad. I just want you to know that if things get bad and you need someone to talk to, I can be there.
Email: brittany_y101@yahoo.com
If you have any messengers of any kind, I can also talk to you that way. I hope I could be of some help. Hope you feel better! Send me a mail anytime. : )
2007-03-04 14:38:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you! It's bad enough that you're in foster housing and not in a family. BUt not to have anyone to share feelings with is terrible, especially at your age (I presumem you're a teenager.)
You need an outlet. Where I live there are Boys and GIrls Clubs that primarily offer disadvataged kids activities to keep them occupied. I presume they have counselors there that are available to listen. Next to that, check with your local support networks.
Everyone needs people in life. It's a matter of understanding the different roles people play in our lives. I found life experiences made me stronger and happiness was found when you made real, close friends.
Best,
-- Liam
2007-03-04 14:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by almcneilcan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Instead of focusing on the things that you DO NOT want, focus on the things that YOU WANT. Like someone to listen to you, or someone to care for you. Believe that you are a good person and believe that you will go far in life. This whole experience that you had in the past was to make you stronger. So, have faith in what you feel and try to think positive. Ex.. I WILL find a good friend to listen to me, I will find love, I am a GOOD person, I am lovable, I AM STRONG. All these thoughts will transform your life. It's called " The LAW of Attraction". What ever you are thinking you are attracting in your life. Most people spend soooooooo much time thinking about the things they DO NOT want. There's sooooo much passion put into this, and when you put all this passion into things, IT happens faster. Try thinking of the things you want and put a lot of thought into it. Think about and really feel how you want tomorrow to be like. Good Luck!!!
2007-03-04 14:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by truebeing3030 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you need to talk to someone and do it fast, make your presence known to people, talk to your counselor, make him/her listen to you, talk to your teacher, if anything talk to your principal, and if all fails talk to an officer of law, but whatever you do talk to someone that count, someone that's going to help you, don't give up
2007-03-04 14:12:57 · answer #9 · answered by mighty_m71 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's NOT IMMATURE to EVER NEED PEOPLE, it's QUITE NORMAL to NEED others.
It is NOT NORMAL to NOT EVER NEED others.
It is NICE to be ALONE @ TIMES for SANITY.
PEACEFUL @ TIMES when ALONE.
GOOD LUCK!!!
Please CONTACT me, to let me know, how it is goin' ok.
NOKIA
2007-03-04 14:17:47 · answer #10 · answered by NOKIA 6103 By T*MOBILE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋