with us or minding me because I wasn't their mother. That is understandable, but then I found out that their mother, who was incarcerated, was telling them negative things about me, thus making them act out in a bad way. Now, these children are 22 and 20 and still dislike me. The only reason they ever disliked me is because I wouldn't allow them or their mother to take advantage of me and stood my ground. Have you ever heard of anything so crazy before?
2007-03-04 13:37:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
oh it is normal.....What they do not understand...and apparently do not understand even now as grown adults.....is that the ones who loved them the most....set boundaries, and corrected them....Those who do not love their kids will let them run and do whatever. The kids saw that the way their jail bird mom was acting was a way of rebelling.....when most kids would have found having a parent in jail for anything would be embarrassing....But I guess they didn't know that it was. I would not worry about it.....if they are still acting this way, then so be it.....just take comfort in the fact that you certainly loved them more than their own mother did....because for 1.....you did noting to put yourself in jail. 2....you set boundaries and rules 3....you corrected or at least tried to correct bad behavior.
Thanks for trying to make those kids good citizens....Maybe one day they will get it.....but until then.....just don't worry about it.....sounds like they had a rough life anyway......so just don't worry about
2007-03-04 13:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really sad what some people put their own children through. Parents pitting children against parents...never giving a thought to what emotional problems they can cause their kids. I think you did the right thing, and it takes strength to stand your ground and not let someone walk all over you. Someday, hopefully the kids will realize what really transposed, and be able to let go of their anger and frustration. Until then...keep your chin up...there is honor in doing the right thing.
2007-03-04 21:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds typical. I have 5 step children and there are still a couple of them that dislike me for whatever reason. It's O.K. with me because I know that I've been good to them and I'm not out for popularity votes. As long as I know within myself that I've always treated them with love and understanding, then I'm O.K. with whatever their opinion is of me. They might see the light years from now.
2007-03-04 21:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately parenting isn't a popularity contest. You stood your ground and that was the right thing to do. It's a shame their mother is playing mind games with them that way. They are grown now, I honestly wouldn't let it get to you.
2007-03-04 21:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by sweetbrneyedgrl7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yesI'm going through the same thing but alot worse. Sit down with the young adults tell them how you feel by useing I statements I feel etc. Counseling might be helpful if they want to give them choices. Prayers help out quite a bit.
2007-03-04 22:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by varley s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, my ex-wife turned my son against me at an early age. He still wants nothing to do with me. People do these things to hurt others, a lot of time out of jealousy.
2007-03-04 21:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I believe that is a common dynamic between stepmother and stepchildren. No, I don't think it is right. You did the right thing by standing your ground and not letting them disrespect you
2007-03-04 21:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋