is it normal to hurt after your you had sex for the first time?

Question

I had sex yesterday and now today im kinda having cramps and im kinda sore. im hoping thats normal since it was my first time and everything.

Answer 1

No, I didn't feel a thing afterwards.

Answer 2

Muscles you are not used to using.

Good general info.

Much pain is from muscles below is an example of what may help (based on headaches).
Begin with a couple swigs of molasses or a couple of bananas (both are muscle relaxers) daily - magnesium (which regulates many things in the body) and potassium (a needed building block for muscles).
Drink at least 1/2 gallons of water per day. Running a body low on water is like running a car low on oil is the analogy the head of neurology at UCDavis told my husband about 10 years ago.

Now to the cause - muscles - your back, neck shoulders and head have tender spots. They are knots in the fibers of the muscles called trigger points. It makes the muscles tight which makes them press on nerves and other things causing the pain.

The cure - start with a professional massage, you will also want to go back over any place you can get to 6-12 times per session up to 6 times per day rubbing (or lightly scratching on your head) every where that is tender until the knots go away. The place where the skull connects to the spine press up under the edge of the skull (to get to those muscles).

For more information read The Trigger Point Therapy Workbook by Davies. It teaches what to do and where the pain comes from.

Answer 3

If a girl is sexually excited and relaxed the vagina will probably be moist enough for a boy's penis to go in without hurting. The vagina is very stretchy and, if a boy and girl have sexual intercourse, usually only part of the penis is inside the vagina. The average penis is between eleven and eighteen centimetres long when it is erect.

If it hurts when you have sexual intercourse it may be because there is not enough of the natural lubrication made by a girl's body when she gets sexually aroused. Quite often being tense or rushing things doesn't help, so try to relax and take your time.

Many women are afraid of the pain that they worry they will have when their hymen is stretched open during the first time they have vaginal intercourse with a man. The hymen is a thin membrane that stretches across a woman's vaginal opening. Menstrual fluids pass through an opening in the hymen during a woman's period. However, many women are born without a hymen, some have very little hymenal tissue, and the hymens of others are stretched open during sports or other activities, such as horseback and bicycle riding. All of these factors influence whether or not initial vaginal intercourse is painful or uncomfortable for a woman.

Women who have hymenal tissue obstructing the opening to the vagina can prepare for their first intercourse by slowly stretching the hymen open with a clean finger. In rare cases, women who have very thick hymens may need to seek medical assistance to remove the obstruction.

Another common cause of pain or discomfort during vaginal intercourse — whether or not it's the first time — has to do with the amount of time the couple spends in foreplay (sexual activity before penile-vaginal sex). As a woman becomes sexually aroused, more blood flows into her genitals (this is also true for men). For a woman, this increased blood flow allows her vaginal canal to lengthen and widen. It also stimulates the production of vaginal lubrication. All these changes allow insertive sex to be more comfortable. Unfortunately, many women have vaginal intercourse before their bodies are fully aroused because their partners aren't paying attention, don't know what they're doing, or are in too much of a hurry.

Men tend to become sexually aroused more quickly than women. So, often they insert the penis before a woman's body has had time to become fully aroused. If the guy is aware of the difference in arousal speed, then he may be more willing to take his time during foreplay. This lets the vagina become sufficiently lubricated and for the woman's body to become ready for vaginal intercourse. Unfortunately, when people are first having sex, they tend to be impatient, clumsy, and self-conscious — which is why people's first experiences aren't always the greatest.

The most important key is communication. Let your partner know what is comfortable and what is not comfortable. Encourage him to take his time. Let him know that women need a longer period of stimulation than men to become fully aroused. If partners take their time, are attentive to one another's pleasure, and they communicate, there can be very little discomfort and sex can be very pleasant — even the first time.

For young women whose bodies are not ready, however, no amount of communication or foreplay will make vaginal intercourse comfortable or fun, which is another reason why so many girls wait until they're older.

Answer 4

Yes,it is normal. I'm not sure about the cramping. But if you used protection, I see no reason to be concerned. If it still hurts in a few days then I would be worried.

Answer 5

Completely normal

Answer 6

The guilt and shame in your mind, and the adverse effects on your emotions can be far worse than the physical pain if you have had sex outside of the marriage covenant which is ordained of God for our own spiritual, emotional and physical well-being.

You can do like I did and ask Jesus Christ to forgive you and come into your heart. He will take away the guilt and shame.
God's boundaries are to protect us, not to restrict us.

He loves us so very much and has the power to erase our past (as far as He is concerned) and give us newness of life.
A guy who truly loves you will wait for marriage.

Answer 7

Perfectly normal and you may have them the next few times but they'll go away eventually as your body gets used to it. It's different for everyone.

Answer 8

Yes, it's perfectly normal! And, it usually hurts the first few times.

Answer 9

Yeah, I'm sure that it's normal. If it starts to hurt a lot more than you might want to see your doctor.

Answer 10

Having sex should not be painful, either during or afterward.
Maybe you stretched your tummy muscles or just by coincidence you are starting your period soon.