Approximately 8 years ago, I had my heart crushed by a guy I dated on and off for years. He was the man I thought I would marry and who I loved in a way I've never loved before or since. The worst part about the final break up is that he told me he never loved me at all, even though his actions over the years counteract that statement.
Well, now I am at the beginning a relationship with a man who is really really wonderful. He's already told me he loves me, as a matter of fact, he says it all the time. And while he's the first person i want to talk to in the morning, and the last I want to talk to at night, I find that the words "i love you" are just too hard to say and because it's been SO long since I've let myself love, I'm not even sure I recognize it anymore. I want to put myself "out there" and but I'm afraid of the emotional risk.
How do I let go? How do I learn to love again?
2007-03-04 13:24:29 · 6 answers · asked by everything_indie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well What you Have To Do Is Leave What Happened In Your Old Relationship Behind, What Happened In The Past, Should Stay In The Past, Since Your In A New Relationship You Should Start Off Fresh, You Don't Have To Say You Love Him If Feel Forced Too, &/Or If You Show Your Affection For Him, and Just Because You Feel You Can't Say "I Love You" Doesn't Mean You Can't Love Any More. Just Make Sure You Don't Say You Have Feelings That Aren't Really There.
I Hope This Helped And I Wish You Luck In Your Relationship.
2007-03-04 13:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by Moonslap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is important that he knows that you deeply care about him but aren't ready to say those three words yet. I was married for several years before my wife came home one day and spontaneously told me that she had never loved me and that I had to leave. Don't be afraid to love because you might get hurt, but don't just say I love you because it sounds like the right thing to say.
I don't know if you are religious at all, and even if you aren't, something that helped me was this website www.trinityomaha.com go there and find the Fresh Start program. You don't need to believe in God (but it helps) for some of this stuff to help you. You must learn to forgive your ex within your heart whether they deserve it or not. Only then can you begin to truly heal and move on.
2007-03-05 00:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can two boats drifting find a haven of rest
A love that comes easy, no more storms to best
When you give up on love there is one thing that's true
Love won't give up on you......
2007-03-04 21:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by Israel-1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are two peas in a pod, i have a poem that i wrote if you would send me your e-mail i would love to send it to you, and i believe it will help you, since my breakup i've wrote poems, about all the feelings good and bad, you wouldn't believe how that helps, the release of those emotions good and bad does wonders for your heart......ayleiah@yahoo.com
2007-03-04 21:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by ayleiah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell yourself that life is too short to hold on to something and be too greatly impacted by love.
2007-03-04 21:29:43 · answer #5 · answered by ailee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just embrace him, and tell him you love him, if you get heartbroken again, wouldn't it have been worth the ride?
2007-03-04 21:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by Jasmina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋