I am going to Flordia on my spring break this year. I am 15 and I am staying with my uncle and his partner, he is gay. I have talked with them a lot on the phone and I know them pretty well, but I usually only see them once every couple of years. So when we do talk it's akward. I am a little concerened about being the only girl in a house with 2 gay men. I am not worried about them being gay, quite honestly their sex life is not my business. Also they have a room mate that is an older straight male. Has anyone here been in a similair situation and does anyone have any tips on things I should or should not do while I am staying there? Don't get me wrong, I love them, I just don't want things to be akward and I don't want to look stupid.
Thanks for your help in advance.
2007-03-04 13:23:13 · 4 answers · asked by I'm here for now 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The fact that you said "their sex life is not my business" tells me volumes- it says everything. I sincerely don't think you have anything to worry about. My gut impression is that you don't want to do anything offensive. Stop worrying. I think you have already expressed you have the right attitude, and as those ahead of me have already said to just treat them as any other couple and you will be fine. Don't worry, I can tell you are NOT stupid. You are thoughtful and will do fine.
2007-03-04 14:04:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that the source of any possible discomfort or awkwardness might be due more to your lack of familiarity with your uncle and his partner than by their homosexuality. If you knew them a little better and saw them a little more often, it probably wouldn't be nearly as intimidating to be spending a week with them. Since that's the case, you probably ought to just concentrate on the usual advice people give to someone who's concerned about being a good guest, such as the following:
1. Take a small token of your appreciation, preferably something you think they'd be into, but nothing expensive or outrageous.
2. Clean up after yourself and offer to give them a hand with doing dishes, setting the table, cooking, or whatever else you're around to help out with.
3. At the end of the week, take your dirty linens (sheets, towels, pillow cases) to the laundry room for them to wash.
4. Enjoy their company, but be sensitive to their right to privacy.
5. If anything awkward or embarrassing does arise, try to react with a sense of humor rather than with panic.
6. Thank them for their hospitality when you leave!
Don't worry. I doubt they'll intentionally do anything to make you feel awkward, and you will probably find that it's much easier staying with two gay men than with two straight men!
Bon voyage!
2007-03-04 22:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by magistra_linguae 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
try not to bring up anything about their sexuality try to treat them like they are a straight couple.
2007-03-04 21:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by lilly-babe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Treat them like anyone else.
2007-03-04 21:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋