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I'm so aone right now, I don't know if this thing called life is worth it anymore. I don't know if my boyfriend really likes me and I don't know why I stayed in a bad relationship for six years. I want to make a difference but I feel like a complete failure. I just want to end everything but I don't want to hurt the few people who love me. Help!!!! Does anyone understand what its like to cry yourself to sleep and not wake up any better?????

2007-03-04 13:21:55 · 15 answers · asked by jamie kat 6 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Oh sure...everyone goes there sometimes. It's getting out of the dark tunnel that proves who you are. Sure it's easy to end all the pain, but it's the people you leave behind who then has to deal with it. Now not knowing what exactly you're going through all I can say is what happened to me. My girlfriend left me with $21,000 dollars of debt. Not only did I feel betrayed because of that, but my heart (at the time) was broken and because everyone said I should stay away from her and I didnt listen, I felt alone in my pain.

But one night a friend of mine once told me when I was in a very dark place, that in the valley where you are it sure looks like the mountains on each side are hard to climb and it's dark down in the bottom. But when you do start to climb out, and you start to look at everything because the light is starting to show up you see that everything is beautiful. He told me that I should climb to the top of the mountain and take a look at the view...

Since then 6 years ago I have done a lot of climbing and a lot of looking around, not only at the outside world, but also at the inside me...and I found that I never want to go back down in the valley...never want to be in that dark place again. My friend was right...it is one hell of a view up here.

Time does heal all wounds and you wont cry yourself to sleep everynight. Be strong and I promise, when you climb up and see the beautiful view yourself, you'll know what I mean.

2007-03-04 13:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Yes. Life is definitely worth it, and I say that from the perspective of someone who has felt the same way as you. Often times when we feel this way, it's because our minds are so focused on the minute details of every aspect of our lives. And when you're young, sometimes EVERYTHING can feel negative. The best thing you can do is to broaden your view. Meet new people, volunteer where people are in worse financial shape than your family, be a big sister to a needy kid. All of these types of things will help you see the worth of life because you'll find joy in the small things and take the focus off yourself.

Hope this helps. Chin up girl.

2007-03-04 13:29:10 · answer #2 · answered by everything_indie 2 · 0 0

Little background on me. Was with a girl for 4 years, had everything i ever wanted and needed, had my life planned out. Though nothing could stop me. Then one day I find out shes sleeping with a best friend. I confront her then she hits me with her car. I had hemorrhaging, was hospitalized for weeks, lost my job, am delinquent on all my bills, have no money. I thought I was done just like you. I recently got a new job. But am still in the hole. I have come to realize that things happen for a reason. It wasn't meant to be with her, my job wasn't right for me. Over the past 6 months I have found the people that truly care for me and support me. You need to look at the big picture. Just because there's some things that aren't going right, there's so much out there for you. Life is what you make it, you need to try to keep a positive though in your head. Just think about all the people out there that are homeless, have nothing, people that are starving in other countries. I took that though and looked at my life and my situations and I realized that I was being selfish. I am blessed to have those people around me, to have a roof over my head, and to have all the things i have in my life. Sometimes life gets hard and you want out but just think of those times as obstacles that are put there to make you a better person and make you stronger. Your situation will work out. Please take it from me. Ive hit rock bottom and came back up and went back down, but each time I learn more and am actually happier those things happened. Keep your head up it ll work out. I guarantee you.

2007-03-04 13:38:20 · answer #3 · answered by Bills 2 · 0 0

I know exactly what your going through, you probably get that a lot but trust me i do. Lately I've thought a lot about killing myself but i haven't done anything drastic and i really hope i don't. Stay strong that's what gets me through the day. the thing you need most right now is a friend you can count on and a shoulder to cry on i wish i could be there for you. you can always I'm me or email me if you need to talk. Remeber life will get better take this from someone who knows. savbby@hotmail.com or live2dream_dream2live@yahoo.com

2007-03-04 13:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

yes, i understand this.
and let me tell you that you are beleiving lies.
just because life sucks now doesnt mean that in 5 years you'll be on top of the world.

life has ups and downs.
sometimes the downs seems long and harsh.
but you need to focus on something.

instead of wallowing in self pity..
[trying to say this nicely as possible..]
try looking at what you have that you love.
what you are thankful for.

because you are taking it for granted if you cant see what
there is to live for.

personally, i think you'd be happier without a boyfreind to worry about. go out with your bestfreind[s]
have some easy hangout time.
smile and laugh.

you can do this.
you're loved.
remember that.

Jesus loves you too.
dont forget.

<33

2007-03-04 13:29:41 · answer #5 · answered by ninjah_jamie 3 · 0 0

YES life is worth it. I was involved for 7 years and it didn't work out, he ended it with a call to say he was inlove with somebody else and thats that.Yet, Im still looking forward to getting married, keep your chin up and don't give up, don't make everything about a boy okay.

2007-03-04 13:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by BOBINE 1 · 0 0

Kid, the best thing you can do for yourself is go get a copy of aldous huxleys "Doors of Perception". After reading that book i realized how much of my perception was based on conditioned responses to my environment. Only then was i able to take control of the situation and proactively make changes that resulted in changing my entire perspective. You are in control of your life. Only you can make it better. Identify what's not working, make a plan to change it, and actively pursue your desires. it'll happen...just keep truckin.

2007-03-04 13:34:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

i think about that ALL THE TIME and it KILLS ME! and life IS worth it. if you love your boyfriend if you love your friends and family, dont leave your life because you think you are a failure. youre not! your friends and family really need & love you so stick with the life you have right now and it might turn out fun. & if you died what if you made someone else kill themself or go through really bad depression?

2007-03-04 16:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

i still rememebr the day she ended it with me, and that was over 20 years ago. And yes i wanted to die, even planned it out. i didn't plan well enough. good thing too, i would have missed the next 20 years, and maybe the 20 still to come. trust that your life will be worth it, not only to you, but to those around you

2007-03-04 13:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by folderdan 1 · 0 0

suffer thorugh it, and eventually you will see a silver lining and something will happen2 u and ur life will get better. Maybe u can set some goals and get out and work on those goals . that always makes a person feel better. good luck and just hang in there!

2007-03-04 13:25:51 · answer #10 · answered by lady26 5 · 0 0

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