My wife is 8 weeks post partum. She is on the final weeks of her leave from work. She is moody. She seems to be happy one minute then angry to fustrated the next. I dread coming home from work as I just know how I will be greeted if at all. We have been married for 2 years. She is good at making things my fault even though she dont look at it that way. She is not an easy person to talk to as my feelings are easily discounted. I work hard at work and help out alot at home. Laundry, house projects, back rubs, cleaning, dinner etc. How do i handle this variation in moods.
2007-03-04 13:11:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She might be dreading the thought of leaving her baby and going back to work....or she might just be having post pregnant depression. Was she the type to have intense periods before being pregnant? These are medical issues that should be addressed by her doctor. You can't be expected to solve all of her problems if those problems are her problems.
How is she with the baby? Does she seem to get upset with the baby? The most important thing is that calm behavior fills the home at this point in the babies life.....love breeds love....anger breeds anger.
Try to get her to talk with her doctor. She needs to know it's common behavior....up to a point. It will pass....but maybe she really is having aproblem about going back to work and leaving her baby with someone else.
Be patient
Be loving
everything will work out.
2007-03-04 13:26:33 · answer #1 · answered by Michael Timothy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to see her doctor! It sounds like post partum depression. There are many ways that her doctor can help her with her feelings, and you cannot do it by yourself - she needs to be seen by her doctor! She is probably feeling like she's being eaten up inside. She is not being moody or angry on pourpose, and it can be partially a hormone issue. After a woman has a baby it is a difficult transition, especially if she must return to work soon. Make an appointment for her with her doctor and be sure that you can go with her. The doctor can help her best if they have input from both of you.
2007-03-04 17:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by noonecanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don;t take it personally. If you could imagine what the changing hormones do to a woman you'd have a small clue and that's not even taking into account the idea that now she's a mother! AGHH! Many women get very overwhelmed at the thought once it's a reality. PLEASE see about getting her doctor to check her out. If she has post partum depressions she is in hell 10 times more than you. It's worth finding out and ASAP!
2007-03-04 13:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by MissWong 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"She is good at making things my fault even though she dont look at it that way." There you go.
Stop blaming her pregnancy and hormones for your marriage troubles. You have a relationship on the rocks and both of you know it. From your post, you have a pretty big chip on your shoulder and are a score keeper. She does not need a Doctor visits or hormonal testing, she needs to have you go to marriage counseling with her.
Love is a decision. You are not there in your marriage yet. Good Luck to you.
2007-03-04 14:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by funschooling m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a glass of water and drive on...shes just going through something u will never know... it'll pass, her hormones are in the process of getting back to normal...she just gave birth...give it some time and her attitude should be back to normal..now if this goes on for along time then she could possibly have post partum depression..and then u should talk toher about talkn to a therapist to help her with that...i have no advice on that though cuz i gave birth to my daughter a year ago and didnt have ppd but good luck and just show her u care... good luck
2007-03-04 13:18:52 · answer #5 · answered by young army wifey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Paitence, is my best advice. I have two girls that are 19 mos apart it is overwhelming to have your freedom downsized. Just doing simple things like using the bathroom, the dishes, even folding laundry without having your kids crying at your feet,its exhausting we miss the freedom to just relax our thoughts and remember to breathe without thinking of the 10 other things we need to be doing. We can do it believe me, It becomes second nature to multi task, but the first few months are a big adjustment. We try not to bite our kids daddy's head off but it happens, sometimes we just need a hero and she might not say it but she thinks of you as her moments savior. You'll make it don't give up.
2007-03-04 13:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her doctor- it could be post partum depression. And screw the cleaning & pay attention to her, not just the baby.
2007-03-04 13:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by greenfrogs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋