Well me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a year and a half but for the past six months we have been having a lot of problems because I found out that he had been talking to girls on the internet and even on the phone and asked other girls to be his girlfriend but he never met them Im sure.....but even so, that just destroyed all the trust so since then he has sacrificed a lot for me but he has been insisting on going out with his friends and I dont really want to let him go because I feel what if he does something? But at the same time I feel guilty because hes young and while his friends are out having fun, he's at home with me and I don't want to push him away or anything....HELP me what should I do???
2007-03-04 13:10:27 · 5 answers · asked by ~Sexy Rose~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So, I am assuming that since you said that you and he are spending lots of time together now, the whole act about him asking other girls to be his girlfriends is over. If not, well, unless your guy likes to joke around about that stuff, you shouldn't be preventing him from going out, you should be pushing him out the door.
If however, the situation has subsided and he has been repentant, then you should absolutely not prevent him from going out with his friends.
You are right, a relationship cannot function without trust. After what happened, it is understandable that you feel like you cannot trust him anymore. Be that as it may, you need to give him the chance to prove that he is worthy of having your trust again. Let him go out once in a while, but if he pulls that sort of crap again, dump the guy. There should be no need for manipulation in a relationship, that's why you are partners.
In summary, let him have another chance, but keep an eye out for anything fishy.
2007-03-04 13:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by John F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you keep controling him your going to lose him. If he really loves you then he isn't going to mess around on you. As far as talking to other girls....well he's a guy so he's a jerk I should know. He just does it to make himself feel good, to get a rush out of knowing he can get anouther woman if he wanted. Let it go don't dwell on it, let him kick it with his friends, but the first time he actually does something kick him to the curb. Once a cheat always a cheat.
2007-03-04 21:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dump him if u dont trust him. u cant watch him 100 % of the time. If you think he is cheating, no amount of controlling him is going to stop him. If he wants to cheat, he will find a way.
2007-03-04 21:15:10 · answer #3 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see your point. If you let him go, then he may go play, but if you hold him back...then eventually he may get tired and dump you. Well, if he continues to play or if you catch him going after other girls, then you'll know what kind of man he is, and it'll be your turn to consider dumping him. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-04 21:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he should be able to go wherever he wants whenever he wants....just like you should... a relationship doesnt involve one person ....you guys should be equal...i understand you dont trust him ...just let him know how you feel...controlling him will make everything worse...just ask him about his night and if he doesnt tell you everything or he lies...tell him to be real and dont tell him something when he wants to know...then he'll see how it feels..
2007-03-04 21:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by Im.An.Allstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋