last year i got engaged and the relationship was going on very smooth and this 3 weeks ago the relationship having problems ,according to my fiance she wants me to come to her hometown after married and she asked me to sold the house that we owned in my hometown i asked why cant u come to my hometown she replied that she cant leave her job,family n friends.
for the information im only child in the family and only me n mum .dad past away few yrs ago.
2007-03-04 13:02:07 · 11 answers · asked by cyberamaster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
for information im having a stable job in my hometown and own a house which is comfortable .and the distance of my hometown to her hometown is 6 hrs journey,as i mention earlier my dad past away few yrs back and my mum raised me in very taugh way and today i have a stable carrier and i love my mum so much.i have discuss this matter with her and she told what can i do if she said no i cant come to your hometown?
2007-03-04 13:34:07 · update #1
bring mom with you. that'll teach her.
2007-03-04 13:04:43 · answer #1 · answered by one sexy biatch 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The two of you have some s-e-r-i-o-u-s discussing to do.
At one time the woman picked up & followed the man wherever he went as he used to be the main 'bread winner'. That's not the case anymore. It takes both people to work to put food on the table, anymore. And in some instances the woman is the bread winner & the man is the househusband.
You have an obligation to your mother but only to a point. When you marry you leave Mom & Dad to establish a life with your wife.
The same goes for her. Is she choosing her friends & job over you???
There is no hard & fast anwswer. Unless the two of you come to a compromise the both of you are happy with then whoever does the moving to the other's town, is going to cause nothing but resentment.
Get it settled now before anymore time goes by. If neither of you are willing to make a concession.......................
2007-03-04 13:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how far away from your hometown is hers. I suggest you make a compromise and pick a town somewhere in the middle, that way you can both be close to your families.
In this day and age, traveling 30 mins or so isn't that big of a deal. You can't win every battle, and neither can she. You need to create a solution.
2007-03-04 13:15:28 · answer #3 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something you two need to work out.
My suggestion: If she has a good stable job and there is nothing keeping you in your hometown.. move.
Your mom will be okay. She may even move with you. If thats what you want..
2007-03-04 13:08:14 · answer #4 · answered by bwiz2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually its a man who decides where they should settle. You should be convinced your GF that you cant simply sell the house and leave your mon and dad. Your a good person who valued your parents. If you think you can leave your parents without any danger, then go on. You have to settle with your own. Leaving your parents doesnt meant that you dont love them. There are still many ways to get in touch with them. Remember, once you get married, you need to decide with your wife.
2007-03-04 13:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by ad_sessionrd 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its a tough call for you i'm an only too and i know if i was to meet someone outta town it would be hard for me to leave maybe get a house between the 2 families.
2007-03-04 13:20:19 · answer #6 · answered by wilo_chick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...now you are finding out just how selfish she is. She is looking out for her own well being above yours. If she cannot stay in your home town until your mom is gone......or your mom does not want to come along with you, dump her. You will have great animosity against your wife for being so careless of your mother and your feelings.
2007-03-04 13:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my fiance and I found a place in between the 2 families
2007-03-04 13:08:36 · answer #8 · answered by scarlett13854 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u all should talk this over....and find some kind of solution....u don't want any issues or regrets b4 the big day...this is a test....u have to compromise
2007-03-04 13:09:06 · answer #9 · answered by thanh hien 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have a common ground..why can't it be an entire new town and start something new together.
2007-03-04 13:06:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to her...find some sort of middle ground....if you can't do that then, it's over
2007-03-04 13:08:53 · answer #11 · answered by Ŗεŋεε 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋