Sometimes I wonder if he is still over her. The other day he was singing along to the "Outta my System" song by Bow Wow, even though he HATES Bow Wow with a passion. (idk why) Also he keeps a record of his poems. I was looking thru them and saw one about her that was written a year ago or so. But I could tell he loved her alot. He doesnt talk to her anymore, at least thats what he told me since he hasnt heard from her in two years.
I just dont know what to think and were 3 months steady in our realtionship. PLEASE HELP!!
2007-03-04 12:40:31 · 10 answers · asked by badmab07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just to make it clear ...he was with her for 6 months NOT two years....two years is how long he hasnt heard from her
2007-03-04 12:56:11 · update #1
You know, I think this is a very interesting question. I was wondering the same thing. But I learned that we need to trust the person we're with, or they'll never learn to trust us back. He is with you for a reason, and that thought can help you relax about it. Maybe he did love her a lot, but if you know he's a good guy, then you'd know that he wouldn't just lead you on. I'm sure he's getting over her, and you should help him do that. I'm 4 months w/ my bf and I had the same question....but he never went out w/ that girl. She rejected him and he liked her A LOT. It scared me to think that he was with me just to forget about her. He still talks to her once in a while, but I learned to trust him. He loves me, and he tells me so all the time. If your bf is the same, you should trust him as well. Time heals things and sometimes even erases them. I'm sure he cares about you. That was the past, and this is now. I'd say not to worry about it too much.
2007-03-04 12:47:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he talks about her without you bringing it up then, that could be a sign that he cares. Your relationship is still in the beginning stages and I would not sabotage it by being worried about this. I guess you also need to think how you would feel if you were involved with someone for two years....there are a ton of memories and stuff that goes along with being with someone for that long of a time. So, with that thought, I would focus on YOUR relationship with him, not the one that he had with his ex.
2007-03-04 12:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him, that the only way your going to get an answer. tell him your not mad just worried that the best thing you have ever had might not be both ways. if he says he is over her than let it be and see how he acts over the next couple of days. if he says yes then ask him why he is with you. rebound or he loves you too. tell him it is important to be honnest as it builds more and more trust between you. if he does have feels you need to ask him if he is getting it out of his system or is still wondering about it. if he wondering about her than its not a healthy relationship as trust will never be built if he is getting her out of his system then give him some time and ask him about it in a month or so, good luck.
2007-03-04 12:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by young, hot, and Aussie! (chick) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't assume! Please don't because I sing out of system all of the time as though I was madly in love with someone. And the truth is at the time I was singing that song didn't apply to anyone. If he is with you then let him be. And he may still have poems and stuff, but if he really loved her then you can't expect him to erase her. You shouldn;t want him to. You should love him in your own way and smile because he chose you. He doesn't seem to be still into his ex!
2007-03-04 12:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whe he keeps everything thats was hers when he makes an attpimt 2 contact her or see her in any form of way like pics oonline profiles etc n how distance he is with u also how he treats u u need 2 tell him that if he aint ovea her then he needs 2b alone not be with any one rite now u dont deserve this
2007-03-04 12:50:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is not over her. Maybe you should share your feelings with him since relationships are largely successful due to open communication. Also, it's only been 3 months so give it some time.
2007-03-04 12:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by bored:) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't mention her, doesn't have pictures of her laying about, doesn't give her a second thought, hasn't seen or heard from her in awhile, He's over her. Go for it. Be his muse for his next poem.
2007-03-04 12:47:00 · answer #7 · answered by content26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he is not over his ex he calls out her name while the two of you are doing it.
2007-03-04 12:46:31 · answer #8 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep him happy with alot of pudding.... and he will forget..
2007-03-04 12:44:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him he still likes he you are the rebound chick
2007-03-04 12:43:34 · answer #10 · answered by toophatboy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋