ok well see i am going out with this boi who is nice at tymez and mean at others. My older bro/cuzins dont really lyke him and i love him and he loves me i think he does but anyways when we fight its not aruging its physical and i usually end up with a couple bruises last tyme his fingers where dented in to my skin so what i do i mean i love him and yeah i mean lyke his he right for me or not and he has never pressured me or any thing lyke that but yeha and sometymes he is clingy.??????????????
2007-03-04 12:40:08 · 34 answers · asked by megan c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please, retake 2nd grade spelling and 2nd grade composition. That is just pitiful.
2007-03-04 12:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes what you say makes perfect sense! Why EVERYONE knows when a guy loves a girl he beats her to a pulp.I would keep living in fantasy land if I were you honey or wake up and smell the intensive care unit waiting around the corner.He will CONTINUE to behave the SAME way for as long as you both shall live.... wait thats not entirely true, he will treat you WORSE as time goes on as long as you both shall live.Your cousins dont like him and for GOOD reason they care about YOU.He is insecure and in order to make sure he doesnt lose you , he tries to control you and the relationship100%.When that control is threatened he uses physical force to take it back.This is just a small taste of what marriage with him will be like, if you live long enough.Tell him to go get help and dump him, but do it with your parents there.He will try the "suicide" to show you how really sorry he is and how he cannot live without you, but thats where you need to be strong because some of these jerks are also homicidal.If he makes threats get a restraining order and carry a cell phone and a gun.
2007-03-04 12:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby Girl ,
Be advised that love is a choice, and violence has nothing to do with love. Hitting, bruising, ect. Fighting women is a Big Red Flag
that this brother is toxic, However, it is up to you to let go. love
yourself and understand that love is very different from what you
are getting out of this relationship, but! if you want this, then you both are going to need help, I wish you the best.
2007-03-04 13:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest this does not sound like a promising relationship. I mean think if you had kids with him. Is that what you want to teach them love is. I dont think so. Dont try to say you would stop because it doesnt stop most of the time. If you ask me he has a lot of qualities in a domestic abuser. thats just my thoaghts on the subject. I hope I helped.
2007-03-04 13:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by moonlitocean2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG dump him in like 2 seconds girl
He doesn't love u if he did he wouldn't leave marks on u
no guy should hit a girl too many guys out there to settle for one that is hurting u
ya know it depends but in most cases the beatings only get worse so you could end up dead or in the hospital
Get out Get out know
2007-03-04 12:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by Happily Taken 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he's got some problems controlling his anger. Maybe you should listen to your bro/cuzins and dump him before he really hurts you. You don't deserve to be bruised,slapped, hit, or anything for any reason he should be man enough to walk away. It sounds like ur family is watching out for you be grateful! Good luck I hope you make the right decision>
2007-03-04 12:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by pr jazz squirm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone who has been there and done that! Drop him before he kills you! there's a reason why your brothers don't like him. He is abusive. You don't want to be an example. It starts with small bruises, but it does get worse. He doesn't love you he loves having control. Move on!
2007-03-04 12:44:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has ever put his hands on you and hurt you.. then you should get out of that relationship. That isn't the kind of love that you want. I bet he is really jealous and doesn't like you talking to any other guys or anything like that right? Well do you want to live like that the rest of your life? Do you want to have to deal with not having friends or not being able to do the things you want to do? A controlling relationship isn't a safe relationship. My advice to you is to get out while you can.
2007-03-04 12:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by Gyrlie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I would cause I mean really who wants to fight (physically) with their boyfriend. But the descision is really up to you. Put it this way. Would you ever want to marry him?? If you would then try talking to him without fighting and say something like I love you soo much but I can't keep on dating you if we keep getting into these fights cause its just to hard for me and I can't stand it anymore! If you wouldn't then I would suggest you talk to him and tell him you can't do it anymore, it's just not right for me. I love you soo much but this just isn't going to work and there isn't anything we can do no matter how much I want to. Please understand how much I want to but I just cant, sorry. You don't have to take my advice but that's what I would do. I hope everything works out good for you! Good Luck!
2007-03-04 12:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by Bobbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him, him hurting you like that is just the beginning of an abusive relationship. Ask yourself this, if you stay with him, what other things will he do to you in the future?
2007-03-04 12:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by barcode 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BREAK UP WITH HIM ! If you want to get emotionally hurt and phyisclly hurt then keep on dating him.This isn't about your family not liking him, it's about him not giving you the respect you deserve.
2007-03-04 12:46:42 · answer #11 · answered by kristench22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋