Difference between 'love' and 'in love'--?

Question

recently i've been spending time with my ex. he spends the night, we have great lovemaking....I can feel he still has feelings for me. he sends me sweet text messages first thing in the morning telling me he misses me and he wants to see me. our favorite thing to do is drink coffee in bed on sunday mornings and talk for hours. Actually, one day recently we had a little argument on saturday and didnt end up seeing each other that night, and sunday morning he shows up real early with coffee and muffins so we could have our favorite morning activity. it was sweet. any way, long story short, i got emotional yesterday and we got into a long conversation over the phone. somewhere in the conversation he said " i love you , but I'm not in love with you"....I am so confused by this based on his actions prior to this conversation. seems like i'm always on his mind! the sex is NOT just sex---lots of emotion there. TOTALLY confused by his words, hoping he is too. I feel like i put him on the spot

Answer 1

In my experience, when they say not in love, they mean that they do not want to be with you as in marriage or commitment.
I love you could mean you are important, I care about you.
His actions do seem contrary to what he says, He may be confused himself. Why not be less available. Give him time to miss you. See if that doesn't arouse greater feelings. Or just ask him what he wants from the relationship. He may be content with the status quo. If you want more..ask.
Otherwise you will continue as you are doing.