There is a guy who is probably the best looking person I have ever seen and he is interested in me. He comes to talk to me all the time when I'm at work, we've kissed too. I know that I act differently around him now, because I think he's way out of my league and I'm afraid my behaviour will put him off. We used to just be friends and I was comfortable around him, but it's just awkward now! What do I do? I don't really understand why he likes me and I think this will always play on my mind everytime I see him. Should I just go after somebody who is in my league instead? Do you think relationships can work if one is better looking than the other?
2007-03-04 12:16:59 · 19 answers · asked by gemwi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seriously now, he's absolutely gorgeous. All of his ex girlfriends are so pretty and I'm worried about that too!
2007-03-04 12:22:35 · update #1
You sound insecure about being more than just a friend to him, and it also sounds like you don't think you're "worthy" of him because he is so good-looking and his exs were also good-looking.
Have you thought that maybe what he likes about being with you is that he can talk to you, and that you used to be so comfortable together? Regardless of looks, sometimes it can be how we get on with someone that makes a relationship special.
Ask youself this question: how would you behave if he looked like someone you would class as being in your league? Then imagine he does look like that, and you might start behaving like yourself ... give him a chance, he might not disappoint or hurt you. Give yourself a chance, you might be pleasantly surprised.
Oh, and give yourself a break: you might be really stunning in his eyes. I know I am my harshest critic, and sometimes, I get suspicious when my hubby says he thinks I'm good-looking, but this has taught me that beauty is really in the eyes of the beholder.
2007-03-04 12:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he might have a different, not to mention higher, opinion of you than you do. Don't let the "league" thing affect your perception of this guy. He might be hot, but that doesn't mean he's above havng a relationship with you. He likes you! Don't analyze it, just enjoy it. You'll have fun and might even find out what it is about you that is more attractive than you realize. Good luck.
2007-03-04 20:29:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you shouldn't second guess your abilities to be right for someone. No ones out of anybodies league. You have to have confidence behind you to take risk with relationships and friendships. I say go for it... you got a hot gut after you. You shouldn't try to predict the future of a relationships, you have to let it progress. Who knows, when you finally let go and get comfortable with him, you can ask all those questions. It's a bonus with hopefully a sweet ending.
2007-03-04 20:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by K Dub 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you making things hard on yourself? Just let it be. He likes you, so just accept it. Not everything is about looks. I've gone out with girls who are gorgeous, and also girls who are just average. But how cool or sweet the girl is atleast as important as how she looks. Of course there has to be that initial chemistry, but after that, even if a girl is hot, if she's mean or rude, it's just not gonna happen.
2007-03-04 20:21:13 · answer #4 · answered by rklst9pitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have confidence in yourself as he is already interested in you so most of the work is already done for you and who's to say who is out of your league just think of it this way you are in a league of your own and you have the man you want chasing after you
2007-03-04 21:06:24 · answer #5 · answered by top cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont go after someone who is more in your league ! if he likes you and you like him nothing is stopping u but remember it is not always looks !! his ex-girlfriends mite be dead pretty but maybe they did have the personality u have ! stick with him ! good luck :) !!
2007-03-04 20:30:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, looks don't have anything to do with it. You may have a wonderful personality which makes you beautiful to him. Get that negativity out of your head, be yourself and enjoy what ever is going on.
2007-03-04 20:21:18 · answer #7 · answered by kayjay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes im sure they could! haha my friend, just about every girl i no thinks hes like WAYY hot and stuff and hes goin out with a really ugly chick and they have been together for like 4 years..so u should DEFFENITLY go for him..and becides looks arnt everything
2007-03-04 20:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by Josh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is out of your league. Be yourself and be confident and know that you are just as deserving as anyone else.
2007-03-04 20:22:02 · answer #9 · answered by sweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wasn't in your league then why is he interested then. u seem to b putting your self down. if he likes u then go 4 it. good luck hunny.
2007-03-05 04:45:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋