I am 32 and have been a widow for 3 years now. Most of the men I meet take a step back when I reveal my situation. What is it that keeps them away?? I am a really nice person, and I just want to meet peole and have some fun too.
2007-03-04 12:16:42 · 12 answers · asked by asking away 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really don't think the true men are intimidated from this. I think you are still hanging on to what you had and it must have been pretty good. I am not saying you need to forget what you had now but you may not be fully ready to move on. Before you can truly move on you must 1st be aware that you are not going to find another just like you had! You are not even going to find a replacement. They will all be different. The more you linger on or comparing them the more you will push them away. Good luck. And be careful you seem to be one fine lady and you deserve a good one. Good luck, there don't seem to be many left of either sex out there. The real way to a mans heart is in the kitchen and bedroom, be carefull!
2007-03-04 12:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by oskkid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps they don't know what the normal period is for morning. It certainly doesn't bother me. I wanted to ask out a widow but was unsure if she was 'accepting' dates just yet (2 or 3 yrs after). So I checked with friends to see what was the situation. She's dating alright. She's just not interested in me. Oh, well. Next.
Good luck. At 32 you still have plenty of life left. You'll find someone.
2007-03-04 20:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by Joe Schmo from Kokomo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you meet them do you also include "5 kids and 17 cats" (just teasing)? You might be causing sensory overload by the way you present yourself. Also, where are you doing your searching? Most guys in bars are like wild predators. They are opportunists looking for an easy "meal" and not much interested in relationships and words like fidelity, true love, etc. Let them get to know YOU first. Then let them see a little more. All the best, Andy
2007-03-04 20:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by Curmudgeon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you volunteer this info too soon, it will make the guy think you have 'baggage' and he will go away. Guys really don't want to know about past relationships. That is a bigger turnoff, in my opinion, than a lack of attraction.
Try not divulging this information unless he really bugs you about it. Even then, try to be emotionally strong. Anything else and most guys(except co-dependents) will bail.
2007-03-04 20:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by Big_Daddy_Vance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a very difficult situation to be the guy after. It is very intimidating for most of us dudes. We really don't like the thought of being compared to someone you probably hold very dearly. A lot of dudes feel like they will never be able to compete. They also think that your type of situation will require more effort and extra attention they might not be willing to give.
2007-03-04 20:22:35 · answer #5 · answered by acvader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's got to be something else ... are you too needy, insecure, judgemental or maybe just a bit too assertive? Sometimes men can be a bit overwhelmed by a woman's grief but if they really like you and want to spend time with you ... then there's no stopping a man. Good Luck.
2007-03-04 20:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the men that you meet are in the same situation that you are in and they are scared to start a new relationship with someone else.
2007-03-04 20:21:58 · answer #7 · answered by Heidi T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don`t think men really care that you are a widow. But do you keep talking about your deceased hubby? Most men would find this intimidating........
2007-03-04 21:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by lost2day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have said probably wouldn't bother anyone either way. There is evidently something more that is causing them to take a step back. Maybe they feel like you are trying to drag them to the altar.
2007-03-04 20:25:22 · answer #9 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There`s nothing wrong with you!! It`s not your fault you`re a widow. Those men are jerks!!
2007-03-04 20:19:24 · answer #10 · answered by Yuki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋