My Bf of 4 months just left me because he is gay and just coming out. I thought we had something special. I have been so depressed the last few days and would just like some comforting words of advise.
2007-03-04 12:15:49 · 27 answers · asked by starxgirl89 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 17 years old if you wanted to know
2007-03-04 12:21:22 · update #1
You sound like you were too good for him anyway. It is not your fault he is gay, and would you really want to be dating someone who has no attraction to you because your a woman?
You can do better than him anyday. You should take yourself out for a movie or ice cream. I find that if I need to release some emotion I watch a sad movie ( Braveheart is my favorite) and just ball until I have no more tears.
Wish you the best of luck!!:)
2007-03-04 12:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by GaelicMel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either you have to accept the fact he's gay and try to work it out, me I would drop him as a relationship and just be friends and just go on in life, I'm sure your a good person who deserves better for a relationship,and probably a sweet person, you'll find someone new or he'll find you? Just hang in there and things will work out for your best interest, I wish you well & hope you find the right person because this gay person should of been honest with you from the start! No honesty then there's no trust, no trust it's not true love! Good Luck!
2007-03-04 12:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the grand scheme of things 4 months is so little time you have your whole life.
I just got dumped by a women
i guess the important thing to realize is that it had nothing to do with you and when it ends it is because the other person is being selfish and only thinking of their wants and needs.
Realize that it was not supposed to be, and why let someone hold you back when there is something so much better you can't even imagine out there.
2007-03-04 12:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by smurf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does a person say to that?
I know it seems hard right now, but look, you did nothing wrong.
He was living the charade. He played on your feelings, and for that he found pleasure @ someone Else's expense.
NOT WORTH YOUR TIME!!!!!
I'm sorry for the way it makes you feel, but understand that you are important too.
From past experiences, I've found that, when you truly know it's over, you just have to open yourself up to someone else.
It doesn't feel right @ first, but it really helps. I promise.
Take care of yourself, and try not to let it get you down.
Something good always comes from something bad. And there is a bright side. It could have taken longer for you to find out.
No matter how long though, it really stinks.
I really am sorry.
2007-03-04 12:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by weazle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant say that i have ever "been there" but I imagine that is very painful on a number of levels. 1 being that you are "losing" him as your boyfriend and breaking up is always painful and 2 there may be some questions of "why". He has to follow his path and be true to himself first and foremost. It is no reflection on you or that there is anything wrong with you that caused this. This is probably something he knew or has known for some time. Being with you allowed him to be comfortable enough to be true to himself. Just know that you will find someone who will be right for you. Do something special for yourself and take care of you for a while to see if that helps. Like I said, he has to be true to himself, and it sounds like you care enough about him to be there for him also in what is probably going to be very hard for him. I am sure he still loves you, but in a different way.
2007-03-04 12:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by Smiles :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the good thing is at least YOU know YOU are straight!
There was something wrong with that guy... Good ridens! He wanted to be a girl for goodness sake. Maybe you should buy him a wig and some panty hose this year for christmas; Give him some pink lipstick on his birthday with a victoria secret thong or something.
Here's a helpful hint for you... MEN don't like shopping for shoes and hand bags.
2007-03-04 12:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by Kontra~Diction 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay don't feel so bad about it look on the bright side he did'nt have an affair with another women at least right? o.k. what you need to do is get inside his head make him see that this is morally wrong and also try to find out what he really likes is he going after this guy because of the sex is better or is it because of something else it sounds like something is really wrong with this guy he needs serious help also if you are having sex with him or intend on having it with him in the future keep in mind you might get a std from him so if you decide he's right for you i reccomend you both get tested.asap.
2007-03-04 12:22:37 · answer #7 · answered by believe me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm not gonna lie, that must suck really bad. But look at it like this, at least it was only 4 months instead of like 4 years. At 4 months, yeah sure, you felt an attachment to him, but not long enough to be depressed over, in my opinion.
Pick yourself up, be happy and go find a straight guy. If your not ready for dating again, then friends, girls night out, or sappy movies and ice cream seem to perk you right up. Hey, at least you find out before you got married! (That's happened to some people).
2007-03-04 12:22:26 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal Rene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay strong... Things happen for a reason. Someone who is ten times better than he was will come into your life sooner or later. You should not be depressed over some guy... Life goes on.... Get up and look in the mirror and say I am ok. nothing is wrong with me and move on...
2007-03-04 12:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by gonzalaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend is gay and let me tell you, it is probably a lot harder on him then it is on you. its not like it is your fault or anything, so don't think it is. he was just confused, and thought that maybe having a girlfriend would make him straight. or maybe he just said he was gay so he could break up with u easier, but he would have to be a real jerk to do that, in which case he would not be good enough for you anyway. but i hope you feel better and sorry that it ended badly.
2007-03-04 12:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by LoVeLY LaURa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋