My ex-boyfriend has matured in so many areas especially in the area of Christian beliefs (which is very important to me) However my current relationship has not matured in that area.
2007-03-04 12:06:26 · 8 answers · asked by Blackpearl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get your current bf to mature in the areas that need maturing. forget your ex bf
2007-03-04 12:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by Bensius 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't give a lot of details. You need to ask yourself specifically WHY the relationship with the former boyfriend didn't work. I am glad he has matured spiritually, but say if he basically is a selfish person or a jealous person and either of these things was one of the reasons for the break-up, then that part of him may not be changed. You also don't say how long it has been since the break-up - - a few weeks? A few months? Does the ex want to connect with you again? If you are interested, then it sounds like you aren't all into the relationship with the current boyfriend. Maybe you should break things off with boyfriend #2, and then be single for a little while. Then in the future, try not to commit to a guy who is not within the spiritual level you need for the relationship to work.
I wouldn't be so quick to re-start a relationship with the ex-boyfriend yet. Appearances can be deceiving, depending on how much time has passed since the break up. You need to definitely KNOW he has changed and not just trying to get you back.
2007-03-04 12:30:34 · answer #2 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very hard when you start dating a guy that doesnt have the same level of beliefs as you. if your christian faith is very important 2 u then i dont think you should settle for a guy that doesnt think the same. In time that is only going to bring problems and sometimes you might even lose your own faith. Always remember this: Pretend your standing on a chair.. its a lot easier for someone to come and pull you off the chair that it is for you to lift them up to be in the same level as you. Also, a guy has to mature in their beliefs because they have the passion to do so not because it going to get you. Because really its not from the heart and he might even be faking it. So my advice to you is to go find yourself a man that beliefs the same as you, remember the bible says to not be unequally yoked. and it says it for a reason! So good luck on your decision and remember never to settle for less than what you really want only because you want a boyfriend and changing someone never works!
2007-03-04 12:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by laural8477 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek the wisdom and the maturity, As a christian you must have similar beliefs to be on one accord, to build a strong foundation for your relationship as a couple.
2007-03-04 12:43:06 · answer #4 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might not be a simple matter of "maturing." Maybe this is just who he is, and maybe he's happy with it. Even people of the same religion can have differences when it comes to beliefs and practices. You need to talk about it with him. If he's not interested in changing, you'll have to decide whether you can live with it or not. If not, move on. trying to change someone who doesn't want to is usually a huge waste of time, and can make things end with a lot of resentment.
2007-03-04 12:13:30 · answer #5 · answered by M L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to work on that area of your relationship. See if he's willing to be more spiritual with you. If he is great you two can learn and grow closer to God together. If he says no...... You seem to have a problem with it now so you would probably continue to have it. Good luck and God Bless!
2007-03-04 12:11:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do anything.
2007-03-04 12:12:06 · answer #7 · answered by franckoboy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sweet! christians rule!! but ya idk.. maby its just not as important to im...
2007-03-04 12:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by Josh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋