How can I become more secure with myself?

Question

I find that my insecurities influence almost everything I do: avoiding social situations whenever possible, not looking for a job, avoiding friends.. and my family. I realize this is very self-centered of me, because I'm only feeling sorry for myself and consequently making things more difficult for my parents. At the same time, I don't know what to do. If I see another shrink, my parents would be paying more money than they need to right now (they were recently divorced, and my mom is trying to sell the house), then again how helpful are psychologists anyway? Should I just "get over it" as some realistic people would say...even though there's a difference between saying it and doing it. I think the root of the problem lies in the fact that I'm not secure with the "true me". I know that if I were more secure with myself I would be much happier! but how do i do that? please don't respond if you don't care. im surprised I'm actually writing this...

Answer 1

i care, I have the same problem. I can't give good advice to you since I amfeeling the same way, I just wanted you to know you're not alone.

Answer 2

do you know why you are or mayeb why you have become insecure ? To be more secure , ... . Make a list of all the positive things about yourself !!! that would be a good way to start example
I like my eyes,
i am tall
I am witty
I am good at math
I help others
I care about others
I am healthy
ect... when u see all the positives the negatives should fade
maybe you can change some of the negative . you started good , by starting here . I went to a shrink it was so stupid they just made me do all the above crap i told you & it didnt sot you anything ALSo try the library for some self help books .