On the one hand, there is my ex-husband. We have finaly gotten to a point where we are best freinds again. He says he still loves me and is ending the relationship with the person he is with now.Then there is this other guy that is interested in me. He seems nice, I am just not sure about the age thing. He is 8 years younger than me. I have 1 son he thinks should be with his father and another son who thinks that I should be with this other guy. I haven't actualy gone out with either one and I am realy not sure if I should. I just know that I have spent the last year either working or with my kids and I need something for me now. I am not trying to be selfish, there is just only so much cartoon network and playstation I can take. Help please.
2007-03-04 11:37:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your marriage with your husband didn't work the first time for a reason. It is good that you are able to still be good friends. Think back to the end of your marriage, do you really want to be in that position again??? I am not saying that things will be like that again, but it was once.
As for this other guy, there is nothing wrong with going out every now and then and have some fun for yourself. Go out with him, I am not saying to date him, but it wont hurt to test the water a little bit. You will never know unless you try. :)
2007-03-04 11:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by asking away 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thing is you don't have to choose either guy. Choose yourself and finding things your interested in doing.
Your ex is now your best friend again that's great, but why do you think if it didn't work out before it will work now? His being your children's father could be what makes you feel like maybe you should give him a chance.
8 years younger shouldn't be an issue, unless you make it one, obviously the guy doesn't seem to mind. But if that makes you uncomfortable and you don't think you can deal with that fact than don't.
Do some soul searching, be honest with yourself and the real reason's behind why you seem so uncertain. Learn to trust yourself.
Good Luck
2007-03-04 11:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by cream city chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is your ex for a reason. Most children would want their parents to be together but how realistic is that in any given situation? I would tell you ex that you feel for him now that he's breaking up with his girlfriend, but you need to tell him that you are planning on hitting the dating scene and would appreciate his respect and support just as you've supported him when he was in a relationship. It's time to move on and you don't have to sleep with this new guy right away. Especially at your home, that's a big no no especially when you have children. Take it slow you deserve to be happy and in a healthy relationship.
2007-03-04 11:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first things first when one relationship ends other one starts god works in weird ways n when ur heart has stop loving 4 the other ends even if ur x still loves u n u have moved on with ur life n u should put u 1st if this new guy can make u happy there is no sin in that n ur happiness should come 1st go 4 it n dont let it stop u
2007-03-04 11:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are your kids? Please tell me that they are old enough to offer this kind of advice. If not, don't allow your kids to influence your decision. You complicating the situation by even asking them for their opinion. Now....if you have a decent relationship wih the ex, don't ruin it by getting back into a relationship that ended in divorce. Secondly, if you really want to date the younger guy, go ahead....Just as long as he is a mature adult!
2007-03-04 11:46:40 · answer #5 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date both of them. Nothing serious, just go out and have a good time with another adult. Let both know ahead of time what is going on and everything will work out for the better.
Good Luck!
2007-03-04 11:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by Ari A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a reason he's your ex, that's why you should avoid making a new relationship with him and keep him as a friend. i would go out with the younger guy
2007-03-04 11:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋