I was merely being friendly to this new guy in my college dorm.we talked once and that's how i found out he needs help with his phone lines and internet. but i forgot to offer my help so i dropped him a note later. Then he replied to say his friend is helping him with that. And he ASKED ME OUT?!. Alright, not sure if he did but it sounds like he wants to be more than friends. Alrght, it was just to get a cup of coffee.
Is he just being friendly? The fact that he asked me out shows that he must be interested in me?
If you were a guy who got my note, would you have asked me for coffee? I mean, can't you just say thanks and that's it?
2007-03-04 11:28:20 · 9 answers · asked by heuteistperfectday 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if you a note to someone and they call you and you are hungry and would you not say "hey my friend is helping me out but I am hungry may be we can go get something to eat"?
I could be anything but when it comes to relationships please for heaven's sake don't come to a conclution too fast because two things can happen cuz of that.
You might think he loves you and avoid or like him a lot but if he did not you might have missed a great friend (if he did not want a relationship more than a friend) or you might miss a great boy friend.
Was I clear?
I hope it was not confusing
2007-03-04 11:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by Xtrax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he either thinks he might be interested in you and the cup of coffee is a way to test that out. He may also think your interested in him because you did offer to help him with his Internet/phone troubles and dropped him a note later. Maybe he is thinking the same thing about you so he is testing the water by inviting you to coffee. If you interested in him go worst thing that could happen is you make a new friend :)
2007-03-04 11:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not much interest in you if it's just a cup of coffee. Maybe he was just being nice. Let him make the next moves and you should be able to figure out if he's just being nice or interested. Guys to do the chasing when it's something they want.
2007-03-04 11:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by solotrovo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not sure if your note was a flirt or a way of being nice so he's asking you out in the same way. 'The Coffee Date' is a nice safe way to ask a girl out because if it turns out she's not into you you can save yourself some embarrassment and say you were just being friendly. if it turns out she is into you then good for you.
My advice, if you'd like to go out with this guy, say yes to the cup of coffee. if it turns out he likes you, great, if I'm wrong about my assumption then you're not put out all that much.
2007-03-04 11:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by Coyote81 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it just a "thanks and that's it" then that would be just friends. But a little coffee, then it would be a best way to say "im interested but would not go to far because i dont know if you like me." A guy would not be friendly to a girl by going to get a cup of coffee because if you want to be a friend but dont want to lead her on then saying thanks and ill see you around would be best. Hello, everybody has needs and needs love, so they will keep looking in best opportunities.
2007-03-04 11:37:11 · answer #5 · answered by franckoboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a very common mistake for dudes to think a girl likes them when she is just being friendly with them. Men have a lot of trouble understanding Women lol.
This is a commom mistake because, as dudes we would tend to be friendly to a girl we liked. This is one of the ways we try to show interest in a woman. So a guy would do something like what you did. This is probably why this guy misinterpreted what you did. He thought you were trying to show interest in him.
A woman will genuinely do something like what you did just to be friendly, a guy wouldn't be as likely. This is the type of thing that makes women so much harder to read compared to men.
2007-03-04 11:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by acvader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... to answer your question bluntly, he is interested in you. But to help you delve deeper into your question, you wondered if your note played any part. You leaving a note saying that you wanted to help sent him the signal that you may want to spend more time with him, he reciprocated by asking you out (coffee IS asking you out by the way). So there you go. If a hot girl left me a note saying she wanted to help me with something, I'd prolly ask her out for something too.
2007-03-04 11:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by Hermes711 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol and your in college? did it ever occur to you that he is trying to make a new friend? you offered your friendship by trying to help him. so go have a cup of coffee. geesh, lets make a mountain out of a mole hill.
2007-03-04 11:34:18 · answer #8 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? I think he is new and is reaching out there for some friendship. You should go out for coffee and enjoy the companionship.
2007-03-04 11:34:40 · answer #9 · answered by sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋