My boyfriend ignores me.?

Question

He only loves on me when he feels like it and when he doesn't (which is most the time) he ignores me. Should I tell him that that hurts me?

I'm afraid to tell him because we're 15.

Answer 1

From my own experiences, my opinion is that it probably wont do you any good to tell him. You can, and it might help (probably not though), but don't expect any changes, and if there are changes, don't expect them to last. Your boyfriend has to learn his own lessons, just as you do. He will probably change only when his behavior hurts him, which means after losing you and maybe even a couple more future girlfriends. I know it's not what you want to know, and I'm not saying I know it all nor am I trying to offend you or your boyfriend. I am saying this solely based on my own experiences and my observations of others' experiences. Don't force yourself to settle for someone who would be perfect for you "if only." Those "if only's" add up. There is someone out there who is good for you and is just waiting for you to come along so you can find each other. Good luck.

Answer 2

If you love him tell him Ask him Why do you ignore me if it keeps up I'm moving on He probably won't change I'd move on time is to short to waste your precious time when you could be with someone that really cares and loves you for who you are GET RID OF HIM HE"S TAKEN YOU FOR GRANTED IS HE WORTH IT NO AREN'T YOU BETTER THAN THAT YES YOU ARE HE'S ON;Y GOING TO WAKE UP AFTER HE LOSES YOU THEN IT'S GOING TO BE HARD TO GET YOU BACK ONLY IF THAT'S WHAT YOU WANT AND IF IT IS MAKE HIM PROVE IT PUT HIM TO THE BIG TEST THEN YOU'LL KNOW HOW HE FEELS GOOD LUCK

Answer 3

1. first think about this: do you really want him to pay attention to you when he doesn't want to? wouldn't that be fake?
2. I think the real problem is that he doesnt' want to pay as much attention to you as you would like.
3. yes, you should tell him that you feel unsatisfied because your needs for attention are not being met.
4. if he doesn't care whether or not you are happy, he is not the right boyfriend for the long term.
5. if his needs for togetherness/companionship etc are very different than yours, he's not the right boyfriend for the long run.

Answer 4

It depends on what you consider ignoring if he is blatantly ignoring you which is doing things purposely without you then that is a problem. If he is handling business (working, spending time with family, hanging out with the guys, etc;) then he is not ignoring you he is just handling his business. So you need to decipher which is really going on and handle things accordingly.

Answer 5

You'd better let him know this isn't working for you. Don't ever hold back your feelings in a relationship, sometimes people are clueless of how what, their doing is hurting you if you don't speak up.

If however he knows and still continues to ignore you than you have to decide whether your going to allow someone to totally disregard your feelings.

I hope not.

Answer 6

Yes tell him. However I think you should leave him because if he really loved you he would be with you all the time, not just when he feels like it.

Answer 7

Definitely!

Answer 8

Try just telling him that you've decided to move on away from the relationship. Avoid arguing with him. You are entitled to your own space.

Answer 9

I'm sorry to tell you this but he is only using you. When he feels lonely you're someone that he can lean on.

Answer 10

look....u have a problem...or you wouldnt ask this question...hes ignoring you...move on..plenty more guys out there who will treat you with respect..when you have to go on a site like this and ask for advise...he aint the one...i'm sure you have spoke to him about it...get goin girl...xxxx