My friend sleeps with different guys,she is having sex with two co-workers but they dont know about each other,these guys dont work in the same building but they see each other at meetings and stuff. She is also stringing this other guy along who is mad about her. Now she has met this other guy at her new job and wants to sleep with him,what's up with her?does this make her bad?two of these guys are married btw
2007-03-04 10:50:36 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why does this automatically make her a "bad" person just because she is having some fun in her life it don't give you or us the right to judge her and what she does. it seams to me that there is one rule for women and another for the men , if this was a man and he was sleeping around and having some fun NO one would say a word he would only get congratulations from his friends but if its a woman then we need to label them as a slag or a tart why is this?
2007-03-04 11:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She's not a bad person, but has a bad habit of not being able to keep her legs closed. This tends to be caused by an emotional past, maybe she was physically abused, sexually abused. You may want to sit her down alone, talk to her, tell her how you feel and show her that what she is doing hurts you, because you care for her and know that she is worth much more than just a f*ck buddy to those men. If she gets upset, let her, cause people like her tend to get upset over the truth at first, then she will realize that you were only trying to help. If anyone is to blame it's the men she is sleeping with, especially the married ones.
2007-03-04 10:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because she has the dillusion that she thinks she is in power. In reality she is being used for sex by cheats. If they don't care about being faithful to their wives how many times less do they give a stuff about your friend. She is just a someone they could use for their own selfish gratification.
Your friend is misled if she thinks she is achieving something as far as those men are concerned she is just an easy cheap lay and she probably wasn't the first they cheated with either.
2007-03-04 10:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would this make her a bad person? In some people's eye yes it is considered wrong but it sounds to me that she has no moral and doesn't know any better. Now those guys that she is sleeping with that are married is another story. That is WRONG now who is the bad person.
2007-03-04 10:55:44 · answer #4 · answered by sunnysky4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend I am sorry is either a bit of a slag or is either looking for someone to love her but she is not going the right way to do it. Hope she is using protection and at the end of the day these people are just using each other and I wouldnt get involved. She is old enough to know what she is doing is wrong, she cant be that desperate for company.
2007-03-04 11:04:08 · answer #5 · answered by janeybest 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she's leading these guys on to think that there is more than just consensual sex on the table then she has a pretty poor sense of herself. The married guys she's sleeping wifh are loosers and she must have pretty low self esteem.
2007-03-04 10:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Turtleshell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my first thought was - "she sounds like a slag!" but then if two of them cant complain if they are married anyway. the fact that she canhappily tag along someone who cares for her, well that makes her sound cruel. is she sex-obsessed or does she have low self-esteem, maybe she uses sex as a confidence boost. either way she should be carefully, she'll get a rep not to mention all the stds floating around these days!
2007-03-04 11:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by keeley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are any one of us to pass judgment on anyone? The question isn't whether she's a good person, it's... what void is she trying to fill up in her life and can you as her friend help her out, by talking with her in a caring honest way.
This is not to imply that I don't think you're a good friend ( you are or you won't have asked the question) just that perhaps you didn't look at it that way.
2007-03-04 11:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by cream city chick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lets just hope she is using some kind of birth control or else she will be in a mess!! ha i dont think it makes her a bad person as such but she should remember that 2 of these men have wifes, how would she like it if some women was to sleep with her husband/partner????
becky xx
2007-03-04 10:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by rebecca2216 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can I put it without calling her a name she wouldn't appreciate..... she's too easy. I guess its all right to sleep around (not for me though) cuz its her body and all but it is wrong that she's been with guys who are married. She's not necessarily a bad person she's just doing things she shouldn't be doin.
2007-03-04 10:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋