I see more and more Christians getting divorced, do you beleive that people marry for the wrong reasons and that couples in the christian circle do not marry in the will and timing of God?
What are ways to encourage Christians going through a divorce?
2007-03-04 10:27:19 · 13 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I think the reason is that we tend to marry only for love, rather than for commitment. Love is a crucial element, but we have to remember that love is an emotion, and emotions are fickle. Commitment is steady and carries us on those days when we love our spouses a little less than usual. If we would commit as well as love, our marriages would last much longer.
2007-03-04 10:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by James F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One would think that Christians would have at least a slightly lower divorce rate than non-believers, but I have never seen any statistics regarding the spirituality of divorced couples, much less those still together.
Actually, I think that even for believers, the common sense of their spirituality just does not "translate" for them into making a relationship work. Again, you'd think it would, but...
Most marriages fall apart not because of cheating or abuse, but because the parties involved were just too emotionally immature. They were too selfish and not compromising enough. Most problems can be worked out with a little give and take.
2007-03-04 10:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remove your blinkers,Marriage and divorce happened before and outside of Christianity. A little more respect and a lot less selfishness may help in a marriage. "encourage" That the right word?
2007-03-04 10:49:58 · answer #3 · answered by raymondo C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are as many reasons for divorce, as there are couples. It is sad to see marriages centered on a faith in the Lord, fall apart.
Personally, I think you should spend lots and lots of time getting to know a person before marriage. One or two years is not too long. Marriage is a huge step, and not to be taken lightly.
I would let the friends who are divorcing know you are there for them, any time they want to talk. Pray for them too, prayer works.
2007-03-04 10:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by Eartha Q 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what I see as the problem with more and more Christians getting divorced is that the church is not teaching Christians how to love. the fact that there is no difference in the statistics between Christian and non Christian marriages proves that even Christians have no better Idea what love is than heathens. most of the comments I see coming from Christians here (myself included at times, yes I fall to saying something assinign at times as well) proves the same thing.
Christ's Idea of love is far different than the heathen love we have grown up with and never corrected. if we look as Jesus' example we see that Love is something defined by action, not something we feel in our chest. "he who has my commands and obey's them is the one who loves me" he states. this is a tough statement because I remember a time I was powerless to obey even single commandment that I had a struggle with, yet I felt like I loved him, I could feel it in my heart. but looking again as Jesus in the Garden, he prayed three times to "let this cup pass from him" he did not relish the Idea of taking such a severe beating and then being nailed to a cross, and shamed in front of the everyone. But never the less he did it willingly, he paid the ultimate price for loving mankind, we killed him. while we were still enemies of God, he died for us. that is love defined by action. and when married there will come times when our spouces may indeed be our enemies, and this is the time when we need to display our love by dieing to our desires and SHOW our love, display it. do what is right regardless of our feelings.
thats love.
2007-03-04 10:50:35 · answer #5 · answered by setfreejn836 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe we have lost our belief in the sacred aspect of marriage...but admittedly, Christians has done nothing to improve the situation and its probably responsible for more social problems than anything else in this era (divorce).
2007-03-04 10:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by Jelly Beans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is overrated. If you love someone, spend time with them. A piece of paper isn't going to strengthen anything. It is only ink and paper. If you want to make your relationship stronger, be there for each other.
2007-03-04 10:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a look at "The Power of Myth," either on video or the book for a very interesting discussion about that very topic.
2007-03-04 10:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your implication is that the only reason anyone should marry is because your god instructs them to do so.
I'm afraid I would have difficulty "encouraging" this antiquated belief.
2007-03-04 10:32:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you should get them to express their feelings for each other and encourage them to pray and ask God for a way and to lead them in the right path.
2007-03-04 10:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by g-maniac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋