so depressed???stuck in rut???

Question

I am so depressed all the time. Im on antidepressants bt have suffered with it since i was about 13 due to childhood bad experience...which came up again 8 years later...Im gettin really moody with everyone, i cant do anything right. When i cry i feel worse cos everytime i cry i let my bf or someone else i love down that little bit more. Im scared everyone will leave me cos i cant see why they would want to be round me....dont know what to do....any help anyone or just help to encourage???in any way. My Bf beginning to wonder if its him - its not but hes wondering why im so down. I talk to him about everything

Nothing is wrong in my life....whats wrong with me??im not being me???

Answer 1

You know guilt is a huge problem when feeling depressed. I know it was for me...you feel guilty about what you're putting others through and no matter how many times they say it's okay...you're never convinced. This is because your mind isn't working in the way it usually does.

Depression is a difficult thing to live with...I would say try to distract yourself as much as you possibly can no matter what it is you do....choose things that you find easy and enjoyable...although I know it's difficult to enjoy anything. I used to buy adult colouring book and gel pens and sit and colour for ages, go for coffee with friends, anything that takes you mind onto something else.

Depression does pass....and this used to really annoy me when people said that because it felt like it never would.

As you have unresolved childhood issues, I would ask your doctor to refer you for some counselling. I think this is really important otherwise it's the same old thoughts and anger that keeps cropping up and bringing you down. I think you need to explore with a professional the root cause of your depression.

I did this and it helped immensely.

Hope this helps a bit, best wishes.

Answer 2

Hi I understand how depression can affect your life. There is nothing wrong with crying it is not letting anyone down but is a natural reflex to a situation, don't hold back the tears and don't bottle things up. As hard as this may sound sometimes loved ones can get fed up hearing about your depression. So i would advise getting professional help in letting go of your past. When thoughts enter your head about your past push them out there is no point dwelling on it as you can't change what has happened. Antidepressants do help they control the imbalance of serotonin in the brain. But there are lots of them and some work in different ways, if the ones you are taking don't seem to be helping see your dr and change them. But you have to give them a chance to work too. Look to the future as that is within your control, your past isn't. I agree with one of the other answers Do something each day that makes you happy, and set things in place that you can look forward to.

I wish you all the best in the future you will come through this. I did!

Answer 3

I sort of know how you feel , But the only way out of this mess is forward, leave all the bad things in the past and look forward to your future , And the only way to a good future is for you to work hard and get the goals you want .

Keep talking to people close to you as this is a good thing to do , Do something everyday that makes your happy .

Also if you get the chance watch these two Films .

Click & The Family Man . . . . . . . . .


These Two Films made me look in the right Direction . If i can do it so can you ,

Im 3 Years down the line from all my bad times and life for me now is Brilliant . . . . . .


Good luck girl and live life to the full

Answer 4

Hey lilly
i am so glad to meet a person who is in a similar situation as me i am feeling exactly like you!!!! i have had a bad childhood but not that bad but i dont know how to describe it, but ever since i have got older pressure has built up and my mind is one day going to explode i dont know why, but one thing has effected me really badly is the person who i love and ever since it is with me, i cry for no reason i think my life is so boring and worthless, and one more thing lilly my advice is forget the past start fresh and take away objects that worry you about the past. AND dont take anti-deppressents they make it WORSE trust me !!! ever one to talk leave a message because we are on the same wavelength!!!!

Answer 5

Hi there. So sorry to hear that you are going through this really rough time. I think the best thing you can do is open up and talk to your bf/friends/family about this. Just explain to them that it is nothing they have done, but that you are just going through this down cycle. Sometimes, if you don't talk to the people you love about this, then they just don't understand. Also, seek support either locally or online- it can really help to be around or talk to others who know exactly what it is like to feel so depressed. Also, if this downness continues to last, you need to see your doc. Maybe he can adjust your meds.

Also, sometimes it helps to have a notebook or journal that is just yours to write, draw, etc. Don't keep it all pent up inside.

Answer 6

Hi Lilly,
these child hood experience stay with you for life until you see someone about them. We will always have these type of problems except when we get help first and formost by a professional. DOc or Psych. There is nothing wrong with you sweety, just need some better skills at how and why. God Bless you!!

Answer 7

I'm sorry for the bad experinces you had but bad childhood experinces can have a really bad impact on us & your feelings are validated & normal & you have to deal with them.I don't know what to say & what to suggest regarding that but one way i dealt with it was through healing (please email me if you're interested & I'll send you more info).

Perhaps also stop thinking negative thoughts, smile more & say thank you to God for everything you do have (I hope I don't sound like I'm lecturing you!) but sometimes we get dragged down by negativity & we need to look at some of the good things in our life too. I know it's not easy but we have to make an effort,otherwise negativity just will keep on & on & it never ends believe me!!
Just by repeating to yourself ;I am positive, you can change yourslef.

I thought you might lke this book(see link).
I hope this is of some help,
with luv

Answer 8

sounds like the childhood experience has affected you deeper than you thought and to have it re-occur 8 yrs later would have just reminded ypou even more, it sound like you actually need to talk about it maybe have some counselling, the tablets maynot be working for you there are so many different types that may suityou better.. go and see your doctor and have a chat.. you'll feel a whole lot better

Answer 9

Move make a fresh start if financially possible?? LEAVE all the bad memories there!! That's what iv'e done over the past, you dont need to go far. I must add here i was the one who made life difficult for myself due to Drink and drugs but i'm better since moving away.

Answer 10

I know what youre going through, as have been there myself.you need to let go of the past and accept that whats happened cant be changed, but you have the power to change your future, and know it will be a happy one.People overcome the most horrendous experiences, and go on to become stronger and more compassionate individuals.Dont push away people who care about you.Start to understand that you do deserve happiness and love, and accept it into your life.good luck.