My husband and I married 2 months ago in the Caribbean just the 2 of us. Now I have held off planning a reception. Is it too late to hold a reception? Also I would like to have a renewal of vows ceremony since our family was not there. My husband says that is acting like we never got married in the first place. Any advice?
2007-03-04 10:08:01 · 16 answers · asked by WullyBullyGurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I wouldn't wait too long, but this soon you could have a formal wedding for your family's sake....and this soon I would just call it a "formal wedding service". Most men don't understand why women want a wedding to remember and probably her parents. So you can have a whole entire wedding...or you could just have a wedding reception...complete with wedding cake, dinner, etc.....you would save money that way, wear a wedding dress, etc. and get pictures.....
Either way is fine...just don't wait too long or it will not seem necessary any longer...I would say in the next month or so.....
since your friends know you were gone, they will understand.
2007-03-07 17:18:26 · answer #1 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two months is already too long...now it just looks like you want a "gift grab", Really. Just send out an announcement with a photo to people you love. Some will send gifts, some may not. Doesn't matter. But - truly, to have a big reception now is very tacky. And - if you still go ahead with a reception and don't care if people will laugh at you behind your back - your husband's wishes should be considered. No repeating of the vows - save that for your 25th Anniversary. Just have someone give you a really nice toast. One more thought - it truly sounds like you are now feeling a bit wistful that you didn't have a big wedding and go to Caribbean for the honeymoon. The evidence lies in your online "username " - Not so happy newlywed" . Too bad, sweetie. You made your decision now stick to it. Ditch the reception and put a down payment on a house - or stick it in savings for your future. Actually if not having a big reception is making you a not-so-happy newlywed, i feel sorry for your new hubby. He's married one spoiled little brat! I'd be willing to bet the farm that, after reading the majority of these responses, you sure as heck won't be showing him your question!!!
2007-03-04 10:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two months is a bit much. If you want to celebrate with your immediate families then go to an exclusive restaurant. One that none of you have been to before. Choose one where the chef is highly acclaimed. One that has a decor of elegance to it.
Already, you are starting to bring drama to your relationship. Did you get married just to have a wedding reception? Stop acting as if you were hard up to get married just to play house! If you really wanted your family to be with you on your wedding day, you would have stayed Stateside, instead of going off to the Caribbeans.
I go along with your husband. But, I further say, don't be so ridiculous. You've taken your vows and now is the time to live up to them, and not keep retaking them as if it's something chic to do or just because someone else did it. Your husband sure has his work cut out for him to try and make a wife out of you.
2007-03-04 10:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by DARMADAKO 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Instead of a wedding reception, invite everyone to an open house to celebrate your life together as a married couple. I wouldn't re-new the vows though. That should really wait for a significant anniversary. Something like 5, 10, 15 etc years.
2007-03-04 10:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by David M 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband that the legal ceremony means you are married and if you want to renew those vows so you can have a ceremony with family and friends that is perfectly fine and has no effect upon your first ceremony. That one was for just the two of you and will always hold a special place but there is no reason not to have a second ceremony that all of your friends and family can also share with you. Perhaps your hubby is just cheap and doesn't want to spend the extra money.
2007-03-04 10:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Two months seems " after the fact". Most couples have a honeymoon and then, within a month, have a reception.... but two months??? I also agree with your husband... you just got married!!! Why renew vows just for the sake of family and friends. This is just between you and him, and it's already a done deal. Sounds like you are missing being a bride.
2007-03-04 10:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have one very soon, it is okay. You husband is right, a vow renewal is usually done at the 25th anniversary, though some couples lately have been doing it at the 10th. It was your decision to get married without family and friends, so you have to deal with the fallout.
2007-03-04 22:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two months is kinda long to wait to have a reception but you could make it into a celebration of our marriage party...like if you have a video of your marriage you can play that at the party..put some of the wedding pictures around..make some speeches..but i would not re-new your vows i think its to soon for that. Good Luck
2007-03-04 10:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by fobfanlovesgreg 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 suggestions, one you could possibly host a dinner party in honor of you two getting married, show pictures, and possibly a video if you have one, the food could be dishes from where you two got married. My other suggestion is wait until your 1 year wedding anniversary and have the whole shabang, display pictures of your trip, and the big reception.
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