I had the pleasure *sarcasm* of joining my family today for church. I have told my mom countless times that I am atheist but she refuses to believe it, thinking that forcing me to go to church or trying to scare me by say," May god have mercy on your soul" will change my mind. Her logic is that I am allowed to have my beliefs but I have to follow hers. Help! How do I stop her? Do you have any advice to get her to understand my Atheism and has this ever happened to you?
2007-03-04 10:01:26 · 15 answers · asked by honeyluvsyou2004 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
No. But religious people have been brainwashed and are unable to accept any beliefs but their own.
2007-03-04 10:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by Skyhawk 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, sort of. I have attended high church funerals because it was a relative's mother, and I have gone along with occasional visits to church that were marginally disruptive. But a visit to a church isn't the end of the world and it doesn't change what I think - and in a way it reflects the reasons I come here, to find out what other people believe in. I don't feel forced to the degree that I resent it. But I recognize that I've gone along with things that they wouldn't do in return (some of them will have to get the hang of a humanist funeral one day, in the unlikely event they outlive me, though!).
2007-03-04 10:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by Bad Liberal 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are, but I'm assuming, since you seem to have no choice in the matter, that you are under eighteen. That seems awfully young to have your mind firmly made up that you are an atheist, or, for that matter, any other belief. You really ought to give yourself time to explore other ways of thinking...
In the meantime, things could be worse. Think of all the children who are neglected and abused, and consider yourself lucky to have a mother who cares enough about you to take you to church with her. Humor her, go with her, and try to make the best of it.
You'll be on your own soon enough...when the bills come in your name, and you either pay them or go without, you can make these decisions for yourself. In the meantime, grit your teeth, and try to show a little gratitiude for the good things you have.
2007-03-04 10:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My family is Catholic and even after I moved out of home, my dad still showed up at my place every week trying to get me to come to church with the family. It got to the point where I just quit answering the door when I knew it was him. After a year, he finally gave up, but he still tells my younger siblings that they should pray for me because I'm probably going to end up in hell.
Most religious nuts don't really care what you want. They're convinced they know better than you do and don't care if you hate them for forcing their beliefs on you. After all, they think they're just doing "God's work". What it is is a lack of respect. If you are an adult, your mother should respect that you have the right to make your own choices. There comes a point when she needs to realise that, if there is a God, it's between you and him.
2007-03-04 10:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by Venin_Noir 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Luckily I was raised by parents who have my same beliefs. I was only made to experience church for a while with neighbors so I'd be able to see that perspective, though luckily I was easily allowed to stop going. If you are young and still live at home, most you can probably do is just grin and bare it for the time being, until you live on your own. Going doesn't mean you have to believe...just means you have to be bored for a bit...
2007-03-04 10:08:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
For actual! I never observed anybody twisting anybody's arm or keeping a gun to his/her head. some human beings think of we are forcing our ideals on them if we even point out that we are Christian. Liquor being offered on Sunday---How is that forcing a Christian concept on anybody? There are non-Christians who choose those shops closed. Prop 8 -- i'm for gay rights. that's illogical to blame this on Christians, as some atheists are as anti-gay as anybody. Athiests have extra rights than we do in faculties. we don't pray. If we even bow our heads in deepest, some atheist whines approximately it. we are quite allowed to call it "Christmas." we could desire to consistently say "winter holiday."
2016-10-02 09:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before she gets ready to go to Church either lock yourself in your room or leave the house. Don't try reasoning with its a waste of time.
2007-03-04 12:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by jetthrustpy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cant say its happened to me personally, but its happened to several friends of mine.
The only thing you can really do is leave your parents house.
You dont say how old you are, I hope for your sake that youre close to 18. Thats really the only thing. Youre not going to change her, and she wont change you, obviously, so really the thing to do is start on building your own life, independent from her.
I hope that helps and good luck to you
2007-03-04 10:06:08 · answer #8 · answered by Jesus W. 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
That happened to me when i was younger. My mom made me go to church even though she knew i was an atheist.
2007-03-04 10:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by funaholic 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I wouldn't (and don't) make an issue of it with my mom. When you move out, you'll be able to choose how to spend your Sundays, but until then, it's pretty much up to her.
2007-03-04 10:08:07 · answer #10 · answered by Let Me Think 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋