Do some honestly believe putting their child in pain will solve the problem?
2007-03-04 09:59:32 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
A lot of people are not that bright when it comes to disciplining their children.When I have kids I won't hit spank or do anything that can make them feel pain.I will just gradually take things they love away from them until they decide to behave.
2007-03-04 10:44:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 5⤋
I believe that someone addressed this earlier: some parents have been disciplined in a similar way by their elder(s), so it is easier to pass on this discipline to their children. This is not always the case, however. Some parents make a stark decision to not allow such discipline in their line of duty, for they have had to live with some of the wounds of abuse. In this case, it is recommended that the parents seek counseling which will support their efforts, in order to help them maintain accountability in this area. Some parents spank their children, because they believe that they were successfully disciplined. Parents have the right, however, to raise their children in a way (whichever method) which will enrich the child's life. So, whether to spank or not to spank, parents need to make SURE that their children will not be harmed to a degree, which would cause them to backfire, sooner.. if not later on down the road.
In a personal response to an answer.yahoo member: one should definitely be careful when it comes to mentioning race as a matter of stating one's point. Not only is it unjust to the person, to whom one is making the comment; but it is also abusive language. A little respect, please, for those who have brought children into the world (no matter age, race or social stand). What concerns them is noone's business, as is YOUR business is YOUR own.
2007-03-04 11:23:31 · answer #2 · answered by Schatz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should beat your children or leave marks but once you stop the time out and spanking they walk all over you. That is what is wrong with the world. I don't believe in hurting you children. I never spank angry and I sit them down and explain why they are getting a spanking so it is fully clear why it is happening ahead of time.
2007-03-04 10:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by Mommyof3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spanking is ok if youve tried everything else and nothing works. But parents should only do it with their hands (no belts or sticks) and shouldnt do it too hard. Beating is something else entirely. People who beat their children really need to seek some help because thats just sick. Who would want to do that?
2007-03-04 10:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spanking and beating are two completely different things. People really need to stop confusing the two.
I would rather my son have hurt feelings from a spanking than one that got run over by a car.
I don't spank to cause pain. I spank to get their attention. I also explain what they did wrong.
2007-03-04 11:40:00 · answer #5 · answered by TRUE PATRIOT 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't agree with beating, but spanking is a different ball game. My wife thinks like you and my two boys walk all over her. Her timeout, talks, and privilege lose do nothing to my sons. But I be damn if they don't listen to me... and they know this in other words I have zero problems with my boys they know I'm not going to play any games with them. O and my wife is always like how do you get them to stop with one word all the time...
Not to mention all these people that say those are just people that don't know any better are also the ones that send there kids to doctors and put them on pills to chill them out, and come up with excuses like ADD I be damn if my kids ever start taking un needed drugs at 3-4 years old because I lack the stomach to truly discipline them.
2007-03-04 10:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by jarrow t 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. A good sharp pain on the hand or the butt imprints "NO!" on a child's brain better than any other method. I regularly smack my 10 month old baby for touching/doing dangerous things and he GETS IT. I haven't had to spank his butt for wiggling dangerously on the changing table for a month because after the first few time, he GOT IT. He KNOWS.
2007-03-04 10:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you asking why do some parents spank their kids, or are you asking why some parents beat their kids? There is a huge difference.
2007-03-04 13:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by Zabes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We learn through pain. If we touch something hot, it hurts, we stop. The same thing with animals. Children are essentially animals. Using pain when they are young is an effective means to curb behavior. Obviously, as a child gets older, the effectiveness wears off and you transition from training to torture. The trick is to determine the switching point.
2007-03-04 10:08:58 · answer #9 · answered by Chemist of Carnage 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
spanking is different than beating, first of all. some parents believe this will ge the job done. as far as beating goes, some parents are not fit to be parents. it's up to your parenting philosophy.
2007-03-04 10:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by Sirius's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think a child should be beat, but spanking should be used as a last resort only.
2007-03-04 10:12:32 · answer #11 · answered by Martin A Neville 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋