im 17. my family r like the traditional indian one. n i was quite ok with that cos i thought 'who needs a boyfriend anyway'. but then all of my friends one by one got one. and it's jst me who doesnt have one. and actually i dont know any guy that i'd like to have as my boyfriend. all my guy friends r jst good as friends. but i keep thinking how nice it would b if i had someone too who i could go to the cinema with, n talk to on the phone for ages and jst get more attention. at the same time, my family will never ever accept this. and i dont want to hurt my parents who have done so much for me..what should i do? should i jst live without a boyfriend and concentrate on other things?
2007-03-04 09:38:36 · 28 answers · asked by hollym 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't be in unhealthy race of bf.
there is lot of life for all that.
concentrate on wat u want to achieve.
2007-03-04 17:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If for right now you don't see anyone your interested in than thats fine, but when you do find someone you like and start dating them 17 is an age that should be fine for dating sit down with your parents and talk to them if you really love that person they should understand.................. but don't go looking for a boyfriend just because your friends have a boyfriend if you concentrate on wanting a boyfriend you might stumble upon the first person who seems interested in you and he might not be the right one for you........ hope that helps bya = )
2007-03-04 09:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by A.S.A.P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heya Im 16 so going through similiar things as you, ive been desperate for a boyfriend for a while but no one has been right so the best solution i have found is to have a large group of male friends (in fact i have no girly friends at all) and this allows me to go to the cinema and shopping with them all so its just like having 5 boyfriends but obviously nothing is romantic or lovey dovey but i like my situation and it doesnt hurt anyone!! j xx
2007-03-04 09:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, it's the 00's (I'm not sure what the term is). You're not legally an adult yet, but you're old enough to make your own decisions. I personally wouldn't look at it as you hurting your parents. If they choose to cling on to their rigid value systems, that's their choice.
I know a girl from India who's about your age, and she has the same problem. But, hey, you've gotta live your own life, sooner or later. I would ask myself if I personally had a problem with the idea of having a boyfriend. If not, then you shouldn't feel afraid to get one.
2007-03-04 09:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be pressured into getting a boyfriend, and you don't have to have a boyfriend to go to the cinema with and talk on the phone for ages, a friend could do that. when you find someone you like, then consider making them you boyfriend.
Maybe your family will see that you are happy when you get a boyfriend and accept it.
hope this helps you
2007-03-04 09:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by throw_away_your_television_2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you already said that you really aren't interested in anyone so you should just stick with having friends. What you are experiencing is feeling left out because all your friends have a boyfriend but you aren't left out really at all because you apparently have parents that love you so much and want you to succeed in life so that you will be a happy well developed adult. You will have plenty of time for dating when you are really ready too.
2007-03-04 09:45:06 · answer #6 · answered by teasab75 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe talking to them and explaining to them that you are not looking to marry any one, but you did want to want to experience some of the things that all teens enjoy as they grow up. I know that you culture is very different than ours is, and I respect you for respecting your parents. You seem to have your mind in the right place. Just remember this.....if they do decide to let you begin dating, please, please remember to always respect yourself and your body. One reason is that they want to protect you...and I can understand that. So many teens feel that they are invincible at that age...but yet so many are killed in car accidents every year. I would also suggest getting a cell phone if you do not already have one, so that you can call for help should some guy take you to a place where he is drinking....or others are drinking and you feel uncomfortable......best of luck to you
2007-03-04 09:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit down and talk with your parents and explain your situation. If dating wasn't allowed, how did they meet? just wondering. You have to look at the blissful and bleak side to having a bf. You have no worries in the beginning but the longer, the more stress and problems u encounter. hope you do what's right!
Peace and Love,
*Smack This*
2007-03-04 09:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this time in your life, you are gradually desiring adult independence. Will you be free when you're 18 to have your own place? If so it might be wise to simply wait.
Try Internet dating (with parental supervision, if that makes it acceptable to them). If your family is religious, try to find someone from your local denomination who is known to your parents. Good luck!
2007-03-04 09:44:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel it was the same thing in my family but eventualy they learn that this isnt the same world it was 20 years ago. hold on there cause i can tell you this for sure the best years for dating are yet to come. for now concentrate on your life your future. make dating the last thing on your list. trust me on this. for now guys only want to take girls for granted and sleep with them. but later you will see guys will want to sherish you and respect you. So i dont think you're missing that much.
2007-03-04 09:45:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you are just missin your buds. Yo don't need a man to define you, and if you don't feel special, do something for yourself. LIke get a manicure. Since there's no one right now that you see tha tway, its best to wait. One day when you find someone who you like and that likes you back, you will know. In the mean time, find sometime with your girlfirends to just hang out and go wild!!!
2007-03-04 09:43:33 · answer #11 · answered by Whitney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋