i know a guy who presents to those who pay him any attention as a staunch and devout member of the catholic?

Question

church BUT for two years he kept chasing a married woman. The marriagebroke up she left her husband This guy told her all sorts of lies and everytime they had been together he went to confession afterwards. Then he would chase again .....she hadgenuine feelings for him......and was deeply hurt. He played with her mind constantly. In my opinion he metally and sexually abused her tho he would never ever acknowledge that .......he was also unknown to her trawling dating sites and meeting other women. She eventually found out and was even more hurt. She was lonely and vulnrable he fed on this. My question is will God see through thisor does God accept him each time he comes to confession with the same sin over and over....and appears tothe parish like he is devout.....or doesGod ever Get angry with the hypocrisy.?

Answer 1

See this is where Catholisim has had arguements with RATIONAL people for ages. In fact this is one of the main reasons we are in America today. People started to realize that you could basically do what you want, and then go to confession and pay thier penants then supposedly your slate was wiped clear. Now does that really make sense.

If you rape a woman then go and confess does God forgive you even though the woman rapped will not and will endure much emotional hardship because of what you did?

The answer is quite simple, but religion has found ways to make rational thought obsolete.

Personally I think Catholosism is the most corrrupt religion.
Here are thier goals:
sexually repress everyone, but forgive those in your circle who act on thier sexual desires (ex. priests raping little boys)
Enact monetary/physical punishment for a means of forgiveness for sins
Find ways to keep mankind revolving around a archaic style of life
Pass judgement on those who dont follow you

Answer 2

I have read several of yur posts now and each time I feel as though you are speaking of yourself - surely nobody could sustain such interest in the actions of others. Worry only about how you conduct your own life - when you are perfect, then you can pass judgement on others. Confession is hypocrisy if you then go and do the same thing again. Who can say if there is a god and who can say what gods feelings would be about such behaviour. We all know what is right and wrong - we don't need anyone else to show us really.

Answer 3

We have in this guy......if what you say is true apredator orthe worst kind. He finds someone vulnrable and taps into their vulnrability......uses abusesand taunts mentally pulling her this way and that until when she leaves her husband would not own up to any responsibility. Confession........and his use of it is pathetic in the extreme. To say you are sorry....to anyone for anything generally means some sort of pledge not to repeatthe offence. Seems this guy has from day one known exactly what he is doing . The woman you speak of....is one.....what others I wonder on the dating sites or in his life has he preyed on. To hide behind the church is sinful.
So he commits adultelry.......lies......cheats........mind games.......and goes to communion and pretends to the world but most of all to himselfthat he is a goodguy. Who says....I doubtvery much that God will such a conviction. Maybe absolution has a finitenumberoftimesitworks....say twicemax......now that would dip him well in the sh....one t would it not and many other predatorswho hold themselves up as good when really there is little to aid their salvation. May all such rot in hell.......the children that have suffered....the women thathavesuffered and the coverup clergy.......who treat God as the fool.

Answer 4

The question is a little theoretical since batterers hardly ever go to their clergy to help them end their violence. Those who are violent in relationships use a great deal of denial, minimizing and blaming. It is highly unlikely for abusers to voluntarily turn to anyone for help or raise this issue in confession. When they do, it may be with a genuine sense of remorse and intention to change or it may be with a misplaced sense that seeking forgiveness is all they have to do.

But battering, like any behavior, has a moral and spiritual dimension. The roots of violence are often embedded deep in the history and behavior of the individual. Breaking the cycle of violence is not done quickly or easily. This is important for the confessor to understand because abusers, even well-intentioned ones, may assume that all they need is forgiveness—whether from their partner or from God—and things will get better. But forgiveness alone is insufficient to resolve the propensity to batter.

A pastoral response to batterers should include these elements:

* For the batterer to stop the abuse (whether verbal, physical, emotional, or sexual) immediately
* For the batterer to acknowledge his role in perpetrating the abuse
* For the batterer to accept responsibility for his behavior and its consequences
* To start the process of healing without rushing prematurely to ask the abused partner to forgive

There is a role for the clergy outside of confession and confessors should encourage batterers to raise the issue outside the sacrament. An important role for the confessor is to encourage responsible behavior on the part of batterers, including ending the abuse, receiving treatment, and addressing the attitudes and behaviors that support it. This will only happen if the confessor does not give in to the charm, excuses, or blaming that batterers use to avoid responsibility. Confessors who can remain compassionate without excusing or enabling the batterer can be of great value in helping end abuse.

Answer 5

God is an elderly gentleman in a bowler hat. He wants to see an end to the Council tax and the inception of a movement towards a world government. He hates lions, giant squid and beetles. He loves fry's turkish delight and condensed-milk sandwiches. If any of this sounds daft, it's no dafter than the other posts here.

Answer 6

hi! don't be so difficult on your self! various adult adult males like great women persons, you be attentive to. i'm no twig the two, and that i'm no youthful female anymore, yet i'm getting various adult adult males's interest. a sturdy character opens the door too! i think of that between the biggest turn-ons is whilst somebody is paying interest to you (and that i don't propose in a slutty way).be attracted to others first, and in the event that they have a heart then they'll have an interest back. If not, you do not choose everyone that propose and egocentric. You sound like a sturdy person, think of of your self as a diamond interior the tough, so love your self, and according to danger inspect some self progression, like exercising, prettier hairstyles; some new outfits according to danger. those provide you extra self-worth. sturdy success!

Answer 7

The victim suffers the sins of those who tresspass against them, if she refused the first pressure she wouldn't have the new pressure of adultery. Their are all too many people seeking to test your spiritual resolve. Will it be acceptable for her to repent of the sin of adultery when his sexual reputation is dependant on it?.

Nobody hinders a heart than sins, only the hearts that seek a higher moral standing. If her heart corrects the adultery, will he remain within it assuming she still has the same values as when they comitted the act?.

I dont know the script for such a crime but i do know their are women who will sell their sexual reputations upon something that isn't even sexually related, BABYLON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

Answer 8

No religion has a monopoly on low lifes. The theory behind a "good" confession is the desire not to repeat the sin. The absolution or forgiveness is condtional on that. The only crumb of comfort is that she was adult.

Answer 9

He might be able to fool a lot of people, but God can see directly into his heart. God will know if he is truly repentant when he goes to confession, and whether he actually tries not to sin again.

God will know if he is a genuine Christian or not.

Answer 10

God get's angry. God even is saddened by his actions as they not only hurt many others, but himself! In addition, he gives the faithful a bad name. BUT, it is none of our business how God deals with him...his actions...his conviction is between him and God.
Just like a family...Johnny gets caught smoking or something. Is it necessarily Susie and Jimmy's (siblings) business that he got caught, or what his punishment is??
God's mercy and grace go on forever and ever! He is not fooled by this person's lies, or deciet...and he will be his judge.
Christians are called to forgive, not judge...because anyone of us is capable of some kind of sin, and the bible does not measure one sin as worse than another. Sin = anything that causes a rift...departure from the will of God, and our relationship with Him.
So maybe I won't cheet...but I may steal...or commit another sin.... We don't ignore the sin...we confront it..and use the truth as a weapon. But we don't judge the person. He is a broken...hollow being!