I have just broken up with my bf of almost 8 years, and I used to do everything with him and was involved in many of his interests. Now that we are not together anymore, I don’t know what to do with myself. How do I find out who I am without the other person because everything that we did together was about “us”?
2007-03-04 09:21:25 · 9 answers · asked by Jasmina 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you're going through is what divorced people go through. You need to concentrate on "you" and stop thinking of him. What have you always wanted to do? Where have you always wanted to go? Join clubs, groups, classes, church...branch out and do things with new people and eventually you will become "you" again and you'll be happy with yourself.
2007-03-04 09:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by Aiden 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain, I was with a girl for 5yrs and that ended suddenly, then was with a girl for 2yrs and I broke up with her 2weeks ago. I am still trying to find myself now. Honestly, I turned to drink and became a bit too dependant on it.
Anyways to answer ur question - I would recommend Friends.. Friends are so important to us and sometimes we dont realise that untill a relationship ends. Try to enjoy being single for a while and dont rush into another relationship too soon. At the end of the day, - Its only Life..Im sorry I cant be of more use to u..x
2007-03-04 17:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by Point 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you need a new wardrobe? Go shopping. What do you like to do? Outside of him. Write down all the things you did before you knew him and things you always thought you would like to do. Choose one and start something new. I went shopping and made myself over. I started doing things I always wanted to do. Dancing etc. Spent a lot of time on self reflection. Kept a journal. Eventually after 4 months was moving on to a new life. And have never been happier.
2007-03-04 17:37:16 · answer #3 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try new things, by yourself and with friends, to find out what u like. And in ur next relationship try to keep some of yourself to yourself so that if u split up u still have things to do.
2007-03-04 17:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,think about all the things u wanted to do,but didnt have time to do, when you were in a relationship. like take dance classes or go visit some country. i think that you should make a list of those things and start doing them! it will help you move on and maybe you will find another man while doing it :))
2007-03-04 17:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mystery_gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem once. Just try to do something different for a while even if it doesn't really feel like it...take a trip to Europe or South America...will help you to relax and think about what you want to. Don't think of him when you are alone, be with your family and friends....
2007-03-04 17:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by frustrated 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what really helps is taking time to yourself by keeping busy explore and try new things..go have fun with your friends,or a girls night out always helps.. whatever you do keep yourself busy and hide everything he got you.. i know its hard to burn the stuff a guy gives u,so just package it up.. it helps best..and remember where u put it. unlike me,i forgot where i put the stuff i got where its at.. but anyways .trust me it helps..good luck
time will heal it all!
2007-03-04 17:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by Andrea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez were you one of those girls that dropped all your friends for a man??? hope not!! you just need to occupy yourself and get your own interests!! good luck
2007-03-04 17:26:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him good luck
2007-03-04 17:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋