my bf sometimes gets out of control and starts to yell at me and says that he wants to break up with me. well the next day he starts to calm down and even though he said he dont wanna be with me nemore..he still all up on my business wondering where i am and what im doing. What does that mean? and this problem goes on everyweek, he constantly wants to break up with me, he yells, screams at me in front of everyone saying that i hate you i dont wanna be with you. i said then leave and then the next day hes like i thought you wana be with me forever....whats wrong with dude?
2007-03-04 09:11:56 · 21 answers · asked by kitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hes extremely insecure and wants you to prove to him over and over again how important he is in your life....he probably wants to see you beg him to be with you....its good for his ego to see a girl grovel and plead....Im glad you arent the grovelling kind....He has a problem, but if youre not careful his problem will become yours and you will think there is something wrong with you for him to behaving in such a stupid way. You deserve better than that...you need a secure guy....a guy who is not prepared to humilate you in public...who will respect and love you like you deserve....this guy you are currently with is only interested in feeding his insecure ego...you can do much better.
2007-03-04 09:19:24 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kitty, you need to leave him for good. This man is a control freak and it seems verbal now but it could change later. This man has serious issues and it could also very well be connected to drugs but if I where you I would leave him without delay.
Bottom line: Leave him and stay gone put a restraining order on him and change your phone number and the locks too your doors, by an alarm (even better change your address) and keep away from him. Cause you don't want to know any ways on how to skin a Kitty.
2007-03-04 17:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd recommend just pulling yourself out of this relationship. The guy seems like an abuser. He yells at you one night, then the next morning he's wondering where you are? He seems to be a bit of a controller, wanting to know where you are and making things seem like your fault.
Bottom line is simple: Get OUT of this while you can.
2007-03-04 17:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by Faith 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he smokes, that could be a biggie. People who smoke tend to have moodswings alot and always seem to be mad at the world. He also might not be ready for a relationship e.g. He might've just ben dumped and hasn't had the chance to get over her. Whatever it is, you two probably need to be apart for a while. Well, good luck with that. Bye.
2007-03-04 17:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by King John dragon-slayer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he's got multiple personalities or hes after some reassurance from u that u wanna be with him, thats why he says he wants to break up so that u will try and get him to stay. u need to talk to him about this, tell him how its affecting u and ur relationship and what needs to happen i.e he stops acting like a 5 yr old
2007-03-04 17:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by Onie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best advice I can give is to BREAK UP WITH HIM !!!!This guy is controlling,doesn,'t know what he wants,and this could lead to him beating you.If you are tired of this move on! If he stalks you tell someone you trust right away because he proally will
2007-03-04 17:18:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its obviouse that your bf has a conflict inside him, maybe he has some family issues..have you tried talking to him about that?..did you ever ask him the question what would you do if you were in my place?..and its obviouse also that he cares for you or maybe he doesnt even notice his attitude the day before..i advice you to sit with him in a calm place and discuss your relation ship in terms of love and careness
2007-03-04 17:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by khokha_babe_daloo3a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a cycle of emotional abuse. After he gets angry and yells at you, he's super sweet right? He's just trying to butter you up. Don't let him win. If he's making you feel bad about yourself or anything else, dump him PRONTO!
2007-03-04 17:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by Mandy L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds bipolar.Or maybe he has a bad temper maybe some anger management?If he is always going to be changing his mind about you then maybe you should be the one to finally make it easy for him and decide this is bs and find someone that isn;t going to be so confused and weird.
2007-03-04 17:18:15 · answer #9 · answered by sweetsmiles69@jennieask-me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't ever marry him!
Infact get rid of him, is he worth the hassle?
He wants to control you, throws tantrums to make you submissive, when it doesn't work he crawls back!
Move on. Good luck.
2007-03-04 17:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by Pure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋