My uncle Harry died last saturady the whole family are upset im not upset we have not had a lot of deaths in the family and iv never been to a furneral before I dident even cry or feel bad is there somthing wrong with me.
2007-03-04 08:41:45 · 21 answers · asked by xxx_gothic_queen_xxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Nothing is wrong with you. My brother died when I was 13. He was 6 years older than me and had been sick a long time. I don't know why I didnt cry at his funeral, just didn't. I felt weird as well. Felt like I was a horrible person with no heart. It just wasnt my time to grieve for him that's all. Since then I have grieved for him. It all comes with time, I believe. But, no, you are not a bad person and there is nothing wrong with you. Death affects us all in different ways.
I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-03-06 14:45:41 · answer #1 · answered by Cricket Monroe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unsure what age you are but when I was younger I actually thought if rather good when someone died. Not if it had been my parents or an aunt/uncle so very close to. In reality, especially uncles we all probably liked them but there wasn't a strong emotional bond. The rest of the family may actually have this if surviving there is a parent, wife, son, daughter, brother,sister. In their case naturally the bond is very strong. What I remember about the deaths within out family outwith my nearest and dearest was so may people coming to the wake, relatives, cousins etc you hadn't seen for ages. Don't feel guilty you probably are grieving just as would be expected for an uncle and although I am much older and hopefully wiser now I don't think there was anything wrong with me at the time.
2007-03-04 18:04:52 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no 'normal' way to act when someone dies, just do whatever feels most comfortable. Sometimes when someone dies you can feel shock even if its expect and it almost numbs you. Funerals are not so pleasant but remember its a celebration of someone's life and not their death. Most important tho -there is nothing wrong with you at all, dont worry x
2007-03-04 16:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by keeley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you, everyone reacts in their own way and if you were close to him, then you'll be able to mourn for him in your own time. My dad died a few years back in August, and even though my mum was married to him for 20+ years she couldn't cry. Then one day in December she just burst into tears... it turned out she'd been that stressed about making sure myself and my sisters would get through it that she never sat down and gave herself some time. It's perfectly normal to react in that way, so try not to worry.
2007-03-05 09:26:20 · answer #4 · answered by Gobbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... My uncle, who had a similar name, died last year at around this time...
No, there is nothing wrong with you. Emotions doesn't need to be on the outside for them to be there. People cope in different ways.
2007-03-04 16:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by Eden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Death effects people differently. The biggest issue is how close you were to the person who died and second is how close are you to those who were close to the person that died. The only funerals that don't upset me are the ones for people who were elderly when they died.
2007-03-04 16:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by Finbarr D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not. We all deal with our emotions differently.
Like me, I've been a to a funeral once or twice and I didn't cry. I wasn't all happy and hyper, but I wasn't crying and stuff.
Sometimes people don't cry because they weren't real close to that person or because they don't know what to think. Sort of like they know that person is gone but are numb and can't cry.
But no, there is NOT anything wrong with you! Good luck!
2007-03-04 17:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your normal everyone reacts differently to death when my godmother died i froze up couldnt eat or sleep or talk for weeks but when my grandad died all i did was cry and now my nan is in hospital and i feel awful becasue i dont relly feel anything becasue i have only met her twice she lives in Belfast miles & miles away from me
dont feel out of the ordinary becasue your normal
everyone is like that at one point or another
2007-03-06 10:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by Irish Lassey Sammi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will most likely have deeper feelings as you get older and closer to certain people.~~~
Everyone is effected differently even then.~~~
I have know people who cared deeply for someone and could not cry but they where not cold hearted, you could since their sorrow and see they cared about the people grieving for that person.
I care very deeply for my loved ones and as I see them pass away, I'm saddened, being a Christian I rejoice. That may not make since to you either but to most who read this, it will.~Jill~~
My Mother wanted to cry when she was dying but the tears wouldn't come. I cried for her when she told me that. That was so sad, at 8o she needed the release crying provides.
2007-03-04 18:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this means that you are the glue that holds your family together through the trials and storms of life. There is nothing wrong with you. You are a strong ,courageous person who can hold her head high in a stressful situation......be proud of that!.....you go girl!!!
2007-03-04 16:56:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋