I have been attending lessons (to learn about married life) and i have just found out that we have 16 hours more of this drivle i nearlyfell asleep today it was so boring.
Does anybody know why they make us sit through all this rubbish just to get married ??? yawn
2007-03-04 08:39:05 · 26 answers · asked by Barry 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
trust me jack I'm not doing just so i can say i was married in a catholic church the missus is catholic not me and she has the wedding she wants (as do most women) if it were up to me then a civil service it would be all this catholic drivle goes in one ear and out the other anyway
2007-03-04 09:06:16 · update #1
Because the divorce rate is so high. Not Catholic, but a lot of people jump into something that they shouldn't. At least they are making you think about it. Now having unmarried priests teach it..........that part I don't get.
2007-03-04 08:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Only the sacrament of the Anointing of the Sick does not require classes before reception.
All six of the other seven Sacraments of the Catholic Church require catechesis (learning) before they are received, this includes:
+ Baptism
+ Confirmation
+ Eucharist
+ Reconciliation
+ Holy Orders
+ Matrimony
This is to ensure the person receiving the sacrament knows what is happening and fully appreciates the duties and responsibilities that come with the sacrament.
With love in Christ.
2007-03-07 00:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you talk more drivle than anyone else....
you want to be married in a Catholic Church by choice but then moan about the procedures involved. Why don't you moan to your girlfriend instead about the lessons?
gosh people today actually look for things to moan about...!
This VERY simple answer to your question is just NOT to get married in a catholic church!!
It like getting in a racing car and moaning about how fast it is!
2007-03-04 18:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by Abdul 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, it can get boring, yes. However you are enduring this pain and suffering for a reason: The Catholic Church believes that Matrimony is one of the seven sacraments, and this union is unbreakable and indisolveable. They want to make sure that you and your future spouse completely understand all aspects of what a marriage means and requires. Wake up, smell the coffee, hey! drink some! And be thankful that you have instructions, most people don't when they enter into marriage.
If you can't man up and put up with a mere 16 more hours I hate to say this ....are you prepared to marry?
2007-03-04 16:46:39 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle_My_Belle 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Yea, check all the posts on this site about people not knowing such and such about their spouse and all the questions about their children and their faith and their spouses don't want them to do this or that. All things like this should be answered by the time you are married. The sex will only be a novelty for so long then the reality of the babies screaming in the middle of the night and the getting laid off with the job all that stuff starts and they want to make sure love does not leave when your fun does.
2007-03-04 16:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by Midge 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
My parents where married for over fourty yrs as Roman Catholics.My brother +sisters were married in a catholic church + they have all been married for over 20yrs.if i get married it will be for life.nowadays money+status comes before anything else.I think it is only fair you should learn about your girlfriends religion so you can understand how she was brought up+how she may wish to bring up any children you may have. It may be a pain, but if you love her, accept her views or is marriage really for you?
2007-03-04 17:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get married in the catholic church, then you better be committed to the teachings of the church, as a catholic I tell people if you are not committed to the churches teachings, then the catholic church is not for you, the church dose not want to, and wont marry anyone into the church, just so they can say I was married in the catholic church, and by your question I do not believe you will make a good catholic, my suggestion would be for you to go find a justice of the peace and get married.
2007-03-04 16:53:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Marriage is not to be entered into lightly. It is a lifetime commitment, in a Catholics eyes. It is one of the 7 Sacraments. The classes are to make certain you are ready for marriage and understand the lifelong commitment you are about to enter. If you are having trouble sitting through the classes, perhaps you should ask yourself if you are going to have trouble making your marriage last. If the marriage classes aren't that important to you, how important will your marriage be?
2007-03-04 17:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by Missy M 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Good thing you are not in Oklahoma Barry. I believe our marriage initiative makes such classes mandatory. Almost all Churches support such classes.
The reason is simple. Divorce is very high and too many people see it as a viable solution to marrying in haste. I presume your betrothed is worth such a small sacrifice? If not you are not worthy of her. It really is that simple. You will be spending the rest of your life with your partner and going slow is the way to go.
2007-03-04 16:45:17 · answer #9 · answered by crimthann69 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
they make you sit through that "rubbish" to try and get you to examine yourself spiritually and your relationship to try to help people see if they are on the same page before going down the isle to make a commitment for the rest of their life to someone. If you dont agree with something within the church, you can always go to a different church. The divorce rate isnt exactly low these days
2007-03-04 16:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by Jelly Beanz 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
They foolishly believe a person should have as much preparation for marriage as a person would need to drive a car.
By the way, if you feel this way about the religion that is important to you fiance, the lessons are going to be as worthless as the marriage is short.
2007-03-05 22:44:35 · answer #11 · answered by lightperson 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋