I split wit the love of my life 5 months ago,we were really in love. She dumped me cus she thought i didnt trust her cus of a message she got,it was sent by my sis but i took the blame cus of family probs in r house. I near died wit a wee prob and my mum had a cancer scare. She was upset i didnt tell the truth. She went in2 depression wen we split. I wanted 2 tell her but she wudnt speak 2 me, she emailed me recently,shes wit a new guy,she told me she likes him but not in love yet,she still loves me and always will. She said she cant go bak 2 me cus she wont trust me after this but wants me as a friend. Wat do i do cus i really love her,id rather b died than live witout her, i know i can win her trust round,quite quickly,please help me guys. Ive 2 emil her bak any tips???? Ive found out her new fella is only 16 and shes a 20 year old uni student,r friends r disgusted in her and find it sick but i still love her.
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I sent her alot of letters and emails. I have wrote another letter but i am afraid to send it in case it makes me look obsessed. advice please. should i send it???
2007-03-04 08:37:18 · 9 answers · asked by Paddy I 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
take up a hobby instead of wasting your time with this... have you considered playing boggle or scrabble? they're fun.
2007-03-04 08:41:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for a little bit to send the letter. For now, tell her that she means the world to you, and therefore would still like to talk to her, and you are willing to be her friend for now because you understand she needs some time before she can think about trusting you again.
Tell her maybe you can go out for coffee or something to talk? If you tell her to dump her new guy and date you again right away, she will probably back away since she is still hurt.
Have a nice conversation with her, as friends, explain what happened when you had that problem, how you felt, how you didn't mean to hurt her. Then just talk about how both of you have been doing. You have to earn her trust one step at a time.
So you have to be completely honest now :)
After a couple of conversations you can ask her for another chance.
Good luck.
2007-03-04 08:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by Edith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the two of you should sit down and really talk. Try to explain to her what happened and be completely honest. DON'T HOLD BACK!!!!!! If she really loves you she will be willing to work this out with you. Trust is a hard thing to hold on to but it is the Foundation to any great relationship. If you work hard you can get her back. Try calling her on the phone and get her to go get some coffee with you. Or wherever you can sit and talk uninterrupted. Tell her how you feel. Stop sending notes. You have to honest to win her back. Hope this helps.
2007-03-04 08:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was the love of your life you would not have lied to her so you brought that on yourself and i don't even know about why your sister would send a text to her phone for it to be bad enough for her to break up with you ot had to be pretty bad so that don't make any sense and if it don't make any sense its got to be a lie.You are not honest with her and that is the bottom line
2007-03-04 08:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't send the letter. it looks needy. if girl says i want you as a friend she means no sex and she is actually using you as emotional support. if she is 20 and the guy is 16 she's crazy. find another girl.
cheers bro. broken heart is something reparable.
2007-03-04 08:43:33 · answer #5 · answered by Di Snow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should speak what is in your heart and if she still doesn't want to be with you, then it will take time to move on.
2007-03-04 08:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by powerdestini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and talk to her face to face,you never know,maybe after talking ,you might not even want her anymore
2007-03-04 08:41:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kinda of pansy are you. move on, she's not intersted. are you that insecure and afraid to be alone?
2007-03-04 08:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by Tacyella 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
only she can decide that!!!!
2007-03-04 08:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by ripmandy4ever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋