My fiance and i are getting married this September and we have decided to dedicate our ceremony to those that couldn't be there to see us marry (deceased), especially our grandparents. His grandparents on his mothers side are the only ones still living. We have a few ideas but want to see if anyone out there has another. Currently we have asked the Pastor to say a prayer for them, we will have 2 candles up front and he will ask my dad to light and candle in honor of his parents and the same for my fiance's dad. The pastor will say their names and then add a note to all other friends and family that have died over the years. We are looking for any and all ideas, if anyone out there has done something similar maybe. The pastor said he has never seen or heard of anything like this but loves our special touch to our special day. Thank you in advance to all answers!!!!
2007-03-04 07:54:57 · 8 answers · asked by jamitha99 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just a note to further help some ppl understand what we are looking for: We live in a very small community where everyone knows everybody, his grandparents were born and raised and died here, literally 1 mile from the church we are getting married in. My grandparents had lived in this area for more than 25 years. They were all well known among the many generations in this town. Everybody attending the wedding will know at least one of our grandparents.
I have to disagree fully with those that think it is not approiate to mention those that we loved so dearly and to let go of on our special day. I would give anything to have my grandmother there to watch me walk down the aisle. We are not going to over-do the situation but simply a small tribute to those that we wish with all our hearts could be there on that day.
2007-03-04 09:25:12 · update #1
For my wedding my mother in law gave me this to be read/said by the reverend. Just for a little background, we read this for the best man, which was my now sister in laws husband who had passed away almost a year before the wedding. The reverend read this as we lit the unity candles.
"As we light these candles, we sense the love and presence of all those who have gone before use, especially _____, we feel you with us today adding a special blessing to this sacred ceremony. It is my hope and prayer that the families of ____ and ___ both seen and unseen will do all they can to sustain and nurture the life of these two as they seek to create their lives together."
2007-03-06 05:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by Colleen Cook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm planning a wedding for August, and while most of the relatives I hope to dedicate are actually still alive, I think this idea might work for you as well. I've been playing with the idea of putting together a special photo montage for the reception of the wedding pictures and other special portraits of the couples in our families--parents, grandparents & great-grandparents, aunts & uncles...that sort of thing. At past weddings I've attended, I've seen so many photo montages of the couple--growing up and throughout their relationship--but I wanted to do something slightly different. I thought that it might be nice to dedicate a part of the video to the love our ancestors have had in their marriages. Maybe start with the dedication and transition to your own portraits and love story. Plus it's not so sad--you celebrate their love and special place of remembrance in your own relationship, rather than focusing on their absence at the actual event. Of course, I love the candle idea as well.
2007-03-04 08:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by Brittany B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will be getting married next year and my fiances dad passed away when he was young...what we are doing or want to do...is to have one chair set up next to him mom with some very pretty blue(that was his favorite color) flowers sitting on the chair and a sash over the chair that says dad...we are also going to have our pastor say a short prayer...then at the reception we will be putting up one small table with his picture and an "In Memory Of" candle along with the flowers from the ceremony!!!
2007-03-04 08:51:55 · answer #3 · answered by Soon2BMrsCarlson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My grandparents were married for over 50 years and on their first date, Grandpa bought a bouquet of gladiolas to give to Grandma. She held a bouquet of gladiolas for her wedding and every year Grandpa gave her gladiolas for their anniversary. I'm getting married in July and sadly Grandma passed away 4 years ago. I am incorporating gladiolas into my bouquet and my centerpiece for the bridal table. Just an idea, you could see if there were any special flowers or other forms of affection shown between your granparents and maybe incorporate them into your wedding. Don't want to overdo it? Just make it subtle so that only your close family members might recognize.
2007-03-04 08:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by servant2heaven 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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My fiance and i are getting married this September and we have decided to dedicate our ceremony to those that couldn't be there to see us marry (deceased), especially our grandparents. His grandparents on his mothers side are the only ones still living. We have a few ideas but want to see if...
2015-08-07 20:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by Winni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart sings knowing how thoughtfull and loving you and your fiance must be! I know when my youngest daughter was married a year after my mother's death, they included wonderfull pictures of my Mom and Dad with her and her sisters in their photo montage set to music, and believe me it was a bittersweet moment those who knew my Mom and loved her will always remember. A simple toast by you and your fiance would also be a loving remembrance, or a dance to music that they loved. It is your day, but we always miss those we loved so much when we step across those milestones one by one. I have been blessed with two more grandchildren since my mother's passing and I know she shares my laughter and the sweet baby smells with me. So do what your heart tells you to.
2007-03-04 08:42:01 · answer #6 · answered by grandma ellen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a wedding, not a memorial, and I just don't think it is appropriate. Best time to mention them would be at the reception when you give your thankyous. You will be thinking of them all day anyway. I know what it feels like, I had no grandparents, nor a father on my wedding day.
2007-03-04 08:24:46 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
first of all love your plan....it sounds like it is a dedication without being over the top.....it is a happy day, not a memorial and you seem to have that in check.
Do you want to make a toast to them, share a memory when it is toast time......???....It is just a thought...miss my granparents too...hope you enjoy your day and know how happy they would be for you.
2007-03-04 08:01:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋