My son will be 3 July 8th and he has been abusive for several months..Nobody ever wants to play with him because they know if they do they are going to end up getting bit,, hair pulled, pinched, hit, kicked or have a toy thrown at them, I do not even want to play with him because of it.
It seems no matter where we go and no matter who he plays with and how big or small they are he abuses them. We took him to a cook out at my aunts and he was playing with my 7 year old cousin and the first like hour everything was fine but then he started hitting him , biting him and scratching him. My cousin who is 17 was kinda wasted and fooling around in our grandmothers wheelchair and he flipped back and hit the floor, my son jumped on him and started hitting him.
I can not deal with this anymore, everyday he is abusing someone and none of the kids in our family like playing with him because there afraid of him.
What can I do to make him stop attacking people?
2007-03-04 07:52:33 · 13 answers · asked by Diamonds_Glow 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He is going to be starting Daycare in September and I can see it now, all the children are going to be afraid of him and hes going to abuse all of them then hes going to come home crying because none of the kids want to play with him.
2007-03-04 07:54:33 · update #1
joyannb25 my household environment is totally fine, if you had read what I posted fully you would have seen that I said the incident with my drunken cousin happened at my aunts house and not mine. He is my 17 year old cousin and I do not agree with his parents allowing him to get drunk but he is not my kid so not my problem and I very well could not tell his parents he could not drink on account of it was not my house.
To those asking what I do for punishment I take away his favorite toys and sit him in time out, neither works. I will never result to spanking,that is just going to send the message hitting is okay...
He does not watch anything violent but my little sister who is 15 was very abusive towards people up to a few months ago, my son witnessed her hitting people a lot and she hit me a few times including once when I was holding him when he was like 3 months old which resulted in me almost dropping him.
2007-03-04 09:25:11 · update #2
Talk to your son, tell him that its NOT okay to hurt his friends or family. Give him time alone and play with him. If he hurts you tell him its NOT okay to hurt, and that he needs to use gentle touches, and show him one.. Also you could give him lots of hugs and kisses to show him how people like to be loved not hurt. As for when he starts preschool they most likely will have talkt to him about gentle touches, isolating him in a quiet place for him to play by himself for a litte while, etc.
--Experience preschool teacher
2007-03-04 07:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got your hands full. You didn't say what kind of things you do for discipline. Sounds like he is having a hard time expressing him self with words too. So he expresses him self with his hands. At almost three years old time out might work. When he throws toys take them away for awhile, if he hits,bites, pull hair remove him from people. I don't want to say to spank everyone had there own opinion on that. Also talk to his Dr. for ideas. Good luck.
2007-03-04 08:04:10 · answer #2 · answered by norielorie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my dear you obviously have more going on in your household than an abusive toddler,
Your 17 year old cousin was kinda wasted and fooling around in grandma's wheelchair!!! It is obvious to me you need better parenting skills. DO NOT have wasted cousins around your soon to be 3 year old. Pay attention to what triggers his anger. Talk calmly to him about what his is doing, always be consistent.
How much abuse can a 3 the year old give...talk to a professional, get help real quick.
Not for the kid but for yourself, you should not be raising a kid in that environment. Good luck and get some educated information on how to change your situation.
2007-03-04 08:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by joyannb25 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
They actually wont tolerate it at daycare they may dismiss him from it, if it is that out of control take your child to a behavioral therapist soon so you can work on his anger problems now and get a jump before daycare starts it sounds like you will need a professional hand
2007-03-04 08:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by stacie_collins2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you react when he does these things? Do you put him on time out? Take away his toys? Remove the things he likes, punish him. Make him understand those things are unacceptable. Perhaps he has some other problem, have you asked your peditrician? Anyway, you need to lay down the law with him and not let it happen.
2007-03-04 07:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by Melanie P 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Feed and Clean Hes nothing without your Attention
2007-03-04 08:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to re-evaluate your parenting strategy. Whatever kind of discipline you are using, obviously isn't working. Talk to a professional and see what kind of advice they can give you. If that doesn't work call supper nanny.
2007-03-04 08:03:07 · answer #7 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he witnessing this behavior in someone else? It could be that you are allowing him to see too many "action" movies and tv shows.
I think it's time for you to take him to a therapist and stay with him yourself!
2007-03-04 07:59:03 · answer #8 · answered by Nosy Parker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound mean, but I think it will work. If he hits you, do NOT pay him ANY attention and do NOT give him what he wants. Do not validate his behavior. Also you have to discipline him.
2007-03-04 08:01:00 · answer #9 · answered by Wocka wocka 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i fell bad i think you should get some professional help someone like nanny 911 but dont sign up for TV. my kid was Violante and she helped and know he is a great kid
2007-03-04 08:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋