We have been together for 5 months. We go to the same college and therefore see eachother very often. For the first 2 months we were alright, we hung out every two days, then we had a month of xmas holiday where we were apart, but we called eachother every day. We have now been back on campus for 2 months and I have spent every night with her, I have pretty much moved into her room.
The problem is that we fight pretty much every day. We fight about nothing most of the time. Does this mean we are getting sick of eachother and need to give it a break or is this a normal stepping stone in a relationship.
2007-03-04 07:52:28 · 19 answers · asked by Olli 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you read your question again you will find that the answer is staring you in the face. your argueing because your spending to much time together.
yes it nice to spend lots of time together but you need a social life as well then when you meet back up you will have something to talk about.
2007-03-04 08:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by crystaluk662 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my boyfriend have been togetherfor a year and 3 months. We fight pretty much everyday over the stuppidest things ever.. sometimes its actually sad. lol. But we fight and we get over it in like 10 mins max. unless its a big fight which doesnt really happen that much. I love him more then anythingand i never thought it to be such a big deal. I guess you are having the same problem to. Id say maybe just fight and laugh about what u fight about like its stupid and your both making such a big deal about it. If that doesnt work id suggest just spending a little time away from each other to get a little break. If the problem is you guys fighting because you get jealous when she goes out or viseversa then spend every second together as much as you can, believe me its worth it ... OH and btw no i dont think you guys are falling apart. lol Good Luck!
2007-03-04 08:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by sam p 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoever starts the bickering is the one who needs the space. He/she just doesn't want to say it because the other person might take it as a breakup. If you're practically living in her room... get out. Go back to your place. Everyone needs a place to call their own. Your girlfriend may not have that and it's causing frustration. When you fight, do either of you apologize and try to resolve the issue?
Bickering is normal, but every day is not. Figure out what you both want from the relationship and that should decide your compatibility.
2007-03-04 08:06:12 · answer #3 · answered by fatcatkeepers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Familiarity breeds contempt." You are around each other way too much! Hang out with the guys. She should hang out with the girls. Do other things without each other. You are losing the spark in your relationship. There are no more surprises. The little quirky things that the both of you did that use to be cute, now they are annoying. If you want this relationship to last, you must give each other a break. Move out of the room and see other only once a week. If you break up after that, then it was not meant to be.
2007-03-04 07:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by Movielota 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should give the relationship a break if you're serious about each other, but you may need to spend some time apart. Go out with your guy friends, let her go out with her girlfriends (she'll vent, ***** you out but you won't have to listen, then she'll feel better and you won't have had to hear it and feel bad! Trust me, it's what I do with my girlfriends. And I don't usually mean most of the stuff I say, I'm just frustrated). Just spend a little more time doing things when you're not always together, and give yourselves time to miss each other. That'll help.
2007-03-04 07:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be stupid, ive been with my wife a total of more than 3 years
(couting dating and marriage of course) in truth it can mean many things, it really depends on how you to think and view each oother, why not just take a step back and actually view what your aarguing about, together, I mean actually step back and talk, because on the surface it looks like you to are getting tired of each other, which may be the case, or maybe its a break down in communication, either way the best thing you can do is just sit down and really talk to each other intimately about why your arguing, because the only people who can stop it is you two
2007-03-04 08:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by shojin_x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my boyfriend are together 24/7 and we fight ALL the time. Most of the time it;s just me picking a fight. Some room would be good, and maybe it's just that ur girl is waiting for you to say the right thing.
2007-03-04 07:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by pretty shy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It just means your probably not compatible. Although, you should probably give her some time to BREATHE. You've only been together 5 mos so there's really no reason for you to have "pretty much moved into her room." You're in college, time to party, not to have a girlfriend and worry about whether or not you're gonna make it.
*Btw, listen to Tom Leykis...He'll show you that way**
2007-03-04 08:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by wickedxjade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there is some underlying issue here: something that's bothering one or both of you and causing you to pick fights for other reasons. Perhaps you're getting bored with each other and don't want to admit it, or maybe don't trust each other fully, or...well, spend some time thinking about it.
2007-03-04 08:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by mithrandir_lathspell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you guys are moving realy fast. you are just now starting to share a space and that always inolves conflict. you need to set up some boundaries and spend some time away from each other. hang out with your friends without her and she should do the same. you just need to give each other a little breathing room.. best of luck
2007-03-04 08:01:46 · answer #10 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋