i need a way to explain to my daughter that when our dog has puppies, we will need to give them away, i brought it up once and she was absoloutly mortified at the idea of giving them away.how do i tell her this without scarring her or having her hate me??
2007-03-04 07:35:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Dogs
Explain to her that there are other children out there who would like to have and love a dog just like she does. Tell her to imagine how happy another child will be when he or she gets her new puppy. Take her along and allow her to hand deliver the puppy herself to the family (as if she's helping). Hope this helps.
2007-03-04 07:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by SmartyPants 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is a tough issue, but at the same time it is a great learning experience. She is lucky to have had the chance to see what it is like to have had puppies, though giving them away or selling them is another experience that she will have. One thing that may help is keeping her included with the giving them away. Let her be there so she can see how happy the puppies are making other people.
When I was growing up my parents bred both rabbits and guinnea pigs to sell to pet stores, and it was always hard giving the babies away, but knowing that they were going to good homes, and having to many pets of our own is a lot to handle.
2007-03-04 15:57:50 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
toughy!! tell her that she would have to be responsible for all of them when they are born and when she finds out how hard it is to take care of all those puppies she won't want to keep them all or have her watch air buddies but your daughter might hate you then but she'll get over it in a day or so. you should also tell her because if you don't shell get attached and it will be even harder to give them away. an idea of what you can do is give the dogs each a special toy and as they leave give her that toy that way she has something from all of them to remember.
2007-03-04 15:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here I was thinking you needed a way to tell her....NVM.
Anyway, tell her that there are going to be a lot of puppies and that people you know that don't have puppies said that they wanted one. Let her know that you aren't getting rid of the puppies because you don't like them, but because there are other people that want one. If she is young enough, tell her that so many people want HER puppies because of how well she takes care of the mom. *Little white lies won't make her hate you. Not to mention it will make her feel better about giving them away if you take that approach. Also let her know that she will have the puppies for a while.
2007-03-04 15:42:39 · answer #4 · answered by clytisciasha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could tell her that they will find good homes and she can help pick them out. Let her keep her favorite one if that's okay with you. You could tell her that the dog might have more puppies some other time or she'll have to wait until she gets older to get her own dog. It would also help to know how old your daughter is (I'm 14 and I know from experiance about getting rid of puppies hurts).
2007-03-04 15:43:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that as long as their babies and the mom needs them, they're not going anywhere. They're only going to find new homes that need them once they're big enough for them to leave their mom, that they're "grown up", just like one day she'll grow up enough to leave home. It might help her if she can help pick out the new owners, talk to them so she knows that they're going to people who really want them. Maybe they can visit every now and again too.
For now, you don't need to push it, as long as you don't give the impression that you're keeping them, then when the time comes it won't be such a shock. Do NOT tell her that you're keeping them and then turn around and give them away when she's on a day trip or something, that would (rightfully so) make her not trust you anymore.
2007-03-04 15:44:14 · answer #6 · answered by greydrakkon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to tell her before the puppies are born. I'd tell her that when they grow up, they will need to find new homes, just like when people grow up, they move away and make their own homes. Tell her that the people who adopt them will love them and the puppies will make the people very happy just like her dog makes her happy.
2007-03-04 15:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i doubt she will hate you, im assuming she is really young by her reaction to the news. explain to her that the puppies need much more time and attention than you are able to provide, and that in order for the puppies to have good lives and grow up to be good, loving dogs they will need families of their own with time for them, i also doubt she will be scarred; she needs to learn that sometimes we dont get our way, but that you are doing it for the puppies not to hurt her. tell her that you wish you didnt have to give them up, let her see you upset and explain to her how much time,patience and money it would take to keep a full litter of puppies.
2007-03-04 15:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by lola7737 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know I've been in her shoes as youngin' but believe me, she won't hate you fore it. I suggest you just explain that their are other families out there that want a dog just like you guys have a dog. My mother always made it very clear to me that although the puppies were cute and they were fun to play with, they were just visitors until they went on to their new owners.
2007-03-04 15:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by Kaela H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hm, I would most certainly assure her that they're going to a good home. Explain to her that someone who really really wants a puppy is going to finally be able to get one, and they will be happy. This may or may not make her realize that if you do sell or give away the puppies, it will make someone happy, etc.
2007-03-04 15:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by Ziggy Stardust 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋