I have been in the Army for almost for 4 years I have just come back from Iraq last September. I now am within sight of my ETS in July (for active duty) and am now being told of deployment this September. Personally I dont mind deploying again however, i am getting married in July. If i deploy i will return next september (if i do) i will return only to see my wife in prep to deploy. What do I do. I know that i will just lose it if that happens. Maybe i am writing this for just someone to talk too. Any advise is great mental heath doesnt seem to care all to much. So please dont ask me to ssee them. If anyone has anything please let me know.
2007-03-04 07:27:27 · 20 answers · asked by David C 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I think that you are in a tough spot. I was a military spouse and it was very hard. My ex was in the AF and was deployed to Iraq during the shock and awe, when the war first started, only 3 months after we got married. Your future wife will come to HATE the military!! I had a lot of Friends that were in the same situation. It SUCKS!! Especially in a spouses perspective. The military does offer support groups, and activities, but, WE JUST WANT OUR HUSBANDS!!! I think you found a strong woman to marry, especially if she knows, and understands what she's getting into.
2007-03-04 16:56:00 · answer #1 · answered by qt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to threaten my husband i'd take his knee out with a fryin pan so they wouldnt take him! We've been out now for 5 years and I am so thankful. I'm so sad for you..to send you back within a year is just cruel. The only answer i have in all seriousness is goin awol...you know thats the only way to get out.The army doesnt care about your newly married status or anything else that matters close to home...thats why I told my hubby get out...i refuse to be a military wife (we were in fort bragg nc...) and raise nomads for children. You did some time over in Iraq...so as far as this us citizen is concerned- you served your time and fought where none of us will ever have to....hell, we even have the choice to just switch a channel and not even look at the reality you existed in so wouldnt dare slap dishonor on you for going awol,my friend. I hope you figure this one out.
2007-03-04 07:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by justsayin... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably it is best just to finish your term in July and get out. Having a husband in harms way is as tough on a wife back home as it is the husband. Maybe even tougher. She's always afraid for the worst. He at least knows when he's momentarily safe, but to her, he's in harms way 24/7. Do you want your fiancee to live like that?
2007-03-04 07:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by zxdfmlp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you signed up for four years then your enlistment should be up here pretty soon and you shouldnt have to be deployed again unless you intend to reenlist. I mean they CAN make it so you arent allowed to get out if they REALLY need you but i dont think they are hurting for people that badly unless you have a rare skill set in which case they should be offering you a bonus to stay in. i think even if they give you papers saying that you are going to deploy you have a week after they give you that to submit your seperation paperwork to let them know you do not intend to stay in and they need to find someone else. talk to your immediate supervisor and if he is no help then just keep moving up the chain until you find someone who can answer your questions. good luck.
2007-03-04 07:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by Vettepilot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even with stop loss, someone who is getting out of active duty should not get deployed. You begin clearing before stop loss happens and you should be removed from all duty rosters 90 days out.
2007-03-04 07:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by kittenbrower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all,none of us can know what you are having to go through except for those who are in your shoes.Thank you for your courage and your service for our country and for those who needed you as well,GOD BLESS YOU.You have alot of time invested in the service and altho you are getting married,she knew your duty when she started dating you correct?Is this your last deployment?Hang in there and don't do anything stupid,you have to be strong for your wife and she has to be strong for you.Others did it and I know you can too.Sometimes the red cross are good to talk to or a Chaplin if you don't want to go to mental health..,that can also show up later in your records.Wished I could help more,but just to let you know,most of us true AMERICANS STAND BEHIND YOU GUYS AND THE PURPOSE OF YOUR MISSION.God Speed.
2007-03-04 07:36:56 · answer #6 · answered by turdhanger 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but you have to do your time in the Army for as long as you signed up for. After that, you have the choice to leave, or to continue. If you go now, you may be charged with deserting your company...but I'm not sure how different the Air Force is from the Army
2007-03-04 07:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by enzo32ferrari 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How long is your contract? It seems like you should be about finished.
I would say just finish your contract and then you will be able to go on with your life. Trying to "get out" could make things worse and drag things out a lot longer, when you could have just finished and been done with it.
2007-03-04 08:11:52 · answer #8 · answered by Curt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blow the APFT. I did that (not on purpose). Another I knew ate spaghetti every day and got out being overweight, but that takes longer.
More radical means will damage the nature of your discharge and hurt your employability.
2007-03-04 07:37:23 · answer #9 · answered by dBalcer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as someone who served in the military, and was in the first gulf war, let me tell you, it can suck to be deployed (especially in the war right now), but all the ways out really arent worth it unless you're dying. its not what you want to hear, but you need to just gut it out. sorry.
2007-03-04 07:37:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋