Ok, yesturday i got home from school, and my mom and, Mr. Jones, my chemistry teacher, were sitting at the table together. I was nervous when i saw Mr. Jones considering i'm dating his son, Jesse, and he didn't or doesn't know that i'm dating Jesse. I asked him why he was here and he said no reason. But when he was leaving he kissed my mom on the cheek. I was really nervous at that point. Later that night mom told me that she was dating Mr. Jones and that they are getting married in a week. I was devastated! I called Jesse right away and told him the news. He was shocked and wondering what we should do. When they get married, Jesse will be my step-brother, so we will have to break up. Mom knows i am dating Jesse, but she doesn't know that he is Mr. Jones's son. Should i tell her tonight that he is and i don't want to break up with him, or should i just break up with him? And, should I tell her that i love him and I don't like Mr Jones, especially as a father, or let her be happy?HELP!
2007-03-04 07:17:17 · 27 answers · asked by jesse's girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
please tell her honesty is always the best policy
2007-03-04 07:23:17 · answer #1 · answered by Nokuthula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brothers and sisters shouldn't date if they share the same biological parent. You & Jesse don't so there is no reason why you couldn't carry on dating him.
I seriously think the 4 of you need to sit down and talk things through as you need to know where you'll be living & what you call him at home.
Your mum deserves to be happy & just because Mr Jones the teacher is horrible doesn't mean Mr Jones the stepdad will be.
In a couple of years you will be living your own life, in your own place at least this way your mum will have someone to look after her when she gets old
2007-03-04 15:27:03 · answer #2 · answered by madamspud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your mother Jesse is Mr. Jones son. This is going to get complicated, especially if the two of you like each other. You obviously care and love your mother very much and honesty is the best way to go in a situation like this. I am sure you will all be able to work things out, but it needs to be put on the table so everyone is aware of what is going on.
Good Luck.
2007-03-04 15:25:10 · answer #3 · answered by devilgal031948 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well baby ,
u are kinda in a mess but not that much.....first thing u should do is talk with jesse ....off if this thing happens then we might have to break up....sometimes u have to do things which can make people happy sometimes u be very small....talk to jesse everything without ofcourse cursing ur mother ...ts not her fault is it now......as per ur question i am guessing that ur mom is a single parent right???if not am sorry....after talkin with jesse talk with ur mom everything dont throw away tantrums and all be a little bit at a understanding level and talk to her....that u kno maybe she wants to rethink or something.....then my girl talk to mr jones tell him everything abt u and jesse put a step down ......see u said u dont like mr jones as a father have u spent time with him have u ever talked with him nicely have u ever even tried to know him????just that he is ur chemistry teacher doesnt giv eu access to not liek him or putting down what ur mom wants....be sensible....dotn be hasty and dont get all too crazy think it with a cool mind......and put urself into ur mom`s shoes.....i am not sounding like an old man but this thing i have seen happen and people have gone crazy and they have ruined everything....even themselves......sit alone for a day sort it out ......do this and u will see changes....positive ones(i am not giving u too much high hopes with jesse causei am not there )so do these stuff and wait and watch...
be good
god bless
Vagabondx
2007-03-06 03:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by vagabond x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her, but don't expect her to call off the wedding so that you can continue dating Jesse. The reason you should tell her is because this is going to effect everyone in both families, and you aren't being fair to yourselves or your parents if you don't give them all of the facts. I'm sorry to say this, but you should also tell her politely how you feel about Mr. Jones. She has a right to know that you have preconcieved notions. I think that if you talk to her reasonably and respectfully and honestly, she'll do the same. Sorry, but this is going to be a tough one. Good luck.
2007-03-04 15:31:43 · answer #5 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your mom shouldn't even be marrying this guy if she don't know his son. That is just rediculous. You should talk to your mom and tell her how you feel about Mr. Jones. You may just not like him because he's your teacher...lol. That don't mean he's a bad person or would make a bad stepfather. I do think your mom needs to slow down and get to know this man and his child before marrying him, and in ONE WEEK??? Not much a notice for you guys... As for your boyfriend, I don't think that is weird. You guys were seeing each other before you even found out they were dating. Talk to your mom.
2007-03-04 15:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you have to tell your mom everything. All four of you should sit across the table and discuss the matter like adults. I for one cannot understand why you and Jesse cannot continue your friendship even if your parents decide to get married.
2007-03-04 16:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing that says you cannot marry your step-brother. Think about it this way: If you had married your boyfriend and your mom had fallen in love with his dad ten years later and married him, you would still be your husband's step-sister. As long as neither you nor your boyfriend have a single parent in common, you are OK. Now, it WOULD be weird if you had been brought up as brother and sister all of your lives and then decided to get married, anyway.
2007-03-04 15:28:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anpadh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down with your mother and tell her everything. let her know how you feel about Jesse and Mr. Jones, then together ya'll decide what's best for the both of you.
2007-03-04 15:21:50 · answer #9 · answered by firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is a tough one. I think you should tell your mom. Maybe she wont feel comfortable knowing that you two are an item. I dont know what the living situation will be but I have four daughters of my own and I wouldnt feel too comfortable having their ex-boyfriend move in considering the break up was based on me.
2007-03-04 15:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by THE mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your Mom that you like him, and she might change her plans if she wants you to be happy. But if you want her to have it her way, break up with Jesse but still be close (friends). Find a different guy.
2007-03-04 15:21:37 · answer #11 · answered by ♥αηηα♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋