My husband and I belong to a church together. I feel that some of the teachings are wrong (Calvinism) whereas he feels this is where he should be. Do I continue to go with him? Do we go to separate churches? Do I try to show to him why I disagree with Calvinism?
2007-03-04 07:06:03 · 12 answers · asked by Laura H 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You are courageous to ask this question. Go to church with your husband because it's important to him. Then on your own begin to study. God has given you this unrest in your soul so that you will seek Him. Find out who founded your husband's and other religions. Study history. Pray without ceasing. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal truth to you. You desire to do the right thing is very pleasing to God. Offer up your uneasiness to God. He can make something good out of anything if we let Him have it. You are already on the right track. Be still and know that He is God.
2007-03-04 08:06:33 · answer #1 · answered by lost again 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only continue to go with him if you can find other ways to learn and study that is more in line with your personal beliefs, and his church does not require you to take part in any practices that go against what you feel is true. otherwise, i would say that being at peace spiritually is more valuable to your marriage than making sure you spend the sabbath in the same place. you can always make a standing date after services to talk about what you each learned, it might even bring a new level of intimacy to your relationship, since in marriage we so often stop having our own interests and become boring clones of each other. do not try to dissuade him from his beliefs, as kahil gibran wrote in the prophet, on marriage, let there be spaces in your togetherness. you do not have to understand something as personal as spirituality in exactly the same way.
that said, there are a lot of churches out there. you guys are part of a faith where you have choices about such things in most areas of the world. perhaps there is a happy medium that would be suitable to you both - a non denominational church or something of that nature? if he simply won't compromise, you must accept that this is important to the man you married, and not resent him for it.
2007-03-04 07:26:44 · answer #2 · answered by mommynow 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you simply don't agree with some of the teachings of a church, then I see no problem continuing to go there. I think with almost any religion--there will be something about it that a thoughtful person will not agree with.
However, if you feel uncomfortable there, find a different church. If you and your husband want to go to separate churchs--it isn't a big deal. Or you could take turns going together--one week both of you can go to his, another go to one you prefer.
2007-03-04 07:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are many different forms of Christianity. But they all carry the same about the good news of the Lord. If you disagree with some of the teachings in Calvinism then try a different form of Christianity to find the one that suits you. This should not put a strain on your relationship because you are both still Christian.
My family is methdist but my sister has had a boyfriend who was Catholic. She broke up with him cause they felt they just wanted to be friends it had nothing to do with the religion thing. He's one of her best friends still to this day.
2007-03-04 07:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by garden fairy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are husband and wife, so you are now one flesh. Therefore, you should go to one church. However, if you're not getting what you need from that church spirtually, then he needs to at least be open to trying different churches. It is his responsibility to make sure that you remain close to Christ. If he insists you remain in a church that causes you to pull away, he is failing you as a husband.
2007-03-04 07:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
As a wife you belong with your husband.
You can explain to him why you do not agree with this doctrine,however do not nag him about it over and over.
There is power in prayer,and God can get a hold of your husband .
Just be patient and pray that the Lord speak to him,and help
him to see it on his own.
2007-03-04 07:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by harrisl66 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say there is nothing wrong with going to church apart. Going at separate times or to separate denominations shouldn't matter if you love each other. Heck, should not even matter if the person is Muslim or a Jew or aethiest.
2007-03-04 09:00:14 · answer #7 · answered by arch0050 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're opposed to Calvin, then I suppose you must follow Hobbes. Buy your husband a copy of the Leviathan.
2007-03-04 07:13:17 · answer #8 · answered by ivorytowerboy 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yikes. Why don't you give up trying to find answers from churches and try finding answers on your own? Is that too much work?
2007-03-04 07:10:07 · answer #9 · answered by kappalokka 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should not go where you don't feel comfortable.
You can discuss you questions and if resolved stay.
If not, no reason you should not explore other ways
to worship.
2007-03-04 07:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by yarmiah 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋