my daughter is getting married, she is panicking about the top table seating. Her father and myself are divorced and we are both remarried. His new wife is insisting sitting on the top table, where as my husband isnt bothered. Should step parents sit on the top table?
2007-03-04 06:59:24 · 15 answers · asked by SOJLO 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Table Manners: Bride's Parents are divorced and both have remarried:
Starting from left to right:
Bride's stepfather
Chief Bridesmaid
Groom's father
Bride's mother
Groom
Bride
Bride's father
Groom's mother
Best Man
Bride's Stepmother
I hope that helps. Congratulations to your daughter, I hope the day goes well for everyone involved
2007-03-04 19:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥PinkBoo - TTC #1♥ஐ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ideally, the step parents should be at the top table. It may come down to physical limitations though, if the groom's parents are also divorced and remarried, will all eight people fit at the top table along with the bride and groom, and bridesmaids and best men?
At the end of the day, it should be whatever way your daughter and her husband to be decide - then everyone should get on with the job of ensuring it's a perfect day for them.
2007-03-04 07:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by RM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is actually up to your daughter and her future husband. As long as the parents are there it will all depend on how the significant others get on and behave. If her step mother is already performing about sitting on the top table I would make sure I stuck her somewhere else, the last thing your daughter will need on her day is an atmosphere or people whispering on the top table.
2007-03-04 07:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will never forget the first time I had to deal with this attitude!
I wonder when adults are going to learn to act like they are.
This day is about your daughter and the man she is marrying, not who did what to whom & who should have the higher acknowledgement.
Have your daughter have a table for her bridal party. Then have her sit her parents, step parents, grandparents wherever she sees fit.. Eliminate a "top table" & her problem will be solved. If step-mom balks......your daughter can get married just as well without her or anyone else in attendance, for that matters.
There is also a book on the market by Majorie Engle about weddings for complicated famillies. See if she can get it at the library.
2007-03-04 07:15:59 · answer #4 · answered by weddrev 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is such an awful dilemma which in this day and age we are coming across as almost normal - there are not a lot of "nuclear families", left. So with this in mind, how are you going to solve this - As the mother of the bride you should be expected to take your rightful place at the top table. My solution is simple - the four of you should all sit at the top table or just you and your husband as parents of your girl. Don't get soft now, you deserve to enjoy this one day of celebration of your daughter's marriage as a proud mother of the bride. Myself, I would insist on this even tho' I would rather walk on broken glass rather than upset anybody.
2007-03-04 07:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wedding is the time to leave whatever problems the steps and the real have with each other at the door. it will not kill anyone to sit together for a couple hours. the step parents have just as much right to the head table as the real parents.
its just like the show Reba. Reba don't really like her ex husbands wife but she deals with her on a daily bases to keep her kids happy.
Its just the proper thing to do. You are all grown ups suck it up!
2007-03-04 11:30:02 · answer #6 · answered by fobfanlovesgreg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditonally the top table seated the bride & groom, the brides father next to the bride the grooms mother next to the groom then their partners next to them, then the chief bridesmaid at the end next to grooms father & best man next to brides mother. You can see this seating arrangement will cause problems for step parents.
The newest idea is to have a romantic table for two to seat the bride & groom.
If it won’t cause friction try to seat members of the bride and groom’s families on tables together, it is their best chance to get to know each other.
The wedding party table should be placed where the bride and groom can see (and be seen by) as many guests as possible.
2007-03-04 21:34:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the parents should be seated at the same table. If this is not possible, nix the idea of a top table. Step-parents should not be excluded from this. You can not take a wife away from her husband, its not fair. You wouldn't want to be seated away from your husband, would you?
2007-03-04 09:10:04 · answer #8 · answered by Level Headed, I hope 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't have a top table. Seriously. If you've got that sort of problem arising, then have a table with your best man and bridesmaids and let everyone else sit where they like. It COULD spoil your wedding day else.........
2007-03-04 07:04:35 · answer #9 · answered by mistral23 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who needs a top table, have just your table with bride,groom, best man and bridesmaids.. this way no way will fell left out and you can relax!! After all its about you and hubbie to be no one else!!!
2007-03-04 09:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋