Why can't I just put my foot down?

Question

Why do I settle for things that I know are wrong? Why, when I stand up for my view point, do people take it as I am attacking or criticising? I am tired of worrying about things that are not my responsibility but affect the ones I love negitively.. Finally, how can you buy a crap load of expensive stuff but put your health on hold because you don't have enough money...even when you DO have health insurance through your job? Why bother even having insurance? Why can't you "afford" to take your pets to the vet for a check up? Ask yourself why? Don't ask me why because I know. I care more about my pet's health than myself. I respect animals because they deserve to be healthy. If not for their own health but fo the health of their humans. Sick animals carry germs. ...and don't tell me "ah it won't hurt ya". The mold in your house WIll hurt you! Same thing about the fibreglass. I am tired of being the mother. I have enough to take care of. Why do I keep going around in circle

I actually have a therapist. I am only worried because I protect my people because I want them to change for the better. Problem is what I do or say doesn't matter and I can't live this way for another 3 or so years. I feel like I am becoming a ball and chain. I will be more consciencious of my own health and I guess my people and animals will suffer on their own from now on. I just don't want to hear I don't have enough money to so this and that. I ask for help I do not have to much pride. I am not afraid to admit I am wrong but when I am right and I can do nothing about it is when I just can't deal with this crap. Thanks for my answers so far. Seems like I jsut keep going the same direction that I was before... I tried to break the cycle but people are always the same and will not change.

Answer 1

It sounds like a couple of things are going on here. First you worry about a lot of things that you have no control over and think too much about what might happen. Secondly you try to fix or correct others when you feel that they are not doing things the right way. It does look to others like you are being critical when you are only trying to help, but nobody will listen unless they actually ask for help. People have different priorities, they also may not have the same feelings or perspective as you do. Believe it or not some people believe that "things" are more important than their state of well being, others don't think animals have rights, that they are just here for our pleasure or use. (that is not me) You have placed a roll on yourself to be mother to those around you, where this need comes from would be an interesting thing for you to find out. It sounds as though this is becoming a big problem for you and that you are feeling drained and stressed. May I play the mother roll and suggest you learn to take one step back from anything you think is wrong or a problem, stew about it for about say 5 minutes, if you can, and then see how you feel about the problem. You can also ask yourself "what is the worst that could happen" or "will this matter in 100 years." Do not speak until you have written down the pros and cons and then think if it were you would you like to have someone tell you that that is not the way to do things, feel, act and so on. Now I would like you to take a look at yourself and decide if you are taking good care of yourself, doing nice things for yourself, exercising, having fun, taking a course you like anything like that. If not you need to get busy making life a positive experience for yourself. Do not worry about others because that is their life not yours. We all have to walk the walk, nobody can do that for us. You could seek out a counsellor that you are comfortable with and work on letting go, examine what thoughts you are having, finding a way to not "should" on others or yourself, and most of all how to redirect that energy into something more positive. A happier you will certainly lighten the load and cause you less grief. When all else fails,the things you cannot fix trust to a higher power.the things you can fix will be your own business.
Life is a circle but not like the one you are going in. Yours is a spiral downward because people don't want you to interfer, you get frustrated and angry, they get angry and it is a no win situation. You could try positive reinforcement when you feel that someone needs to see the doctor or something equally as important. Example: "I really like the way you can pick out such super stuff to wear. Where do you find the strength to do all that shopping when you don't feel well. How about if I go to the doctor with you and then you can take me shopping? I'll buy lunch." That way you will both win. It takes time and hard work to change the way you do things, it will make you more aware of what your needs really are and could be a lot of fun. Good luck, take care and relax.

Answer 2

Im not sure what the question is here, but you keep going in circles because you are staying focused on the problem instead of the solution. That way, you go nowhere and end up right back where you started.

Focus your energy to not worry about what other people say and simply put your focus on your goals and try to achieve them.

I started moving forward in life when I convinced myself that I will not worry about things I can't control. This is especially true with bills. I look back and say, well Ive made it this far, and did all that worrying for no reason, try it, it works!

Answer 3

confident and no to over reacting. tell her you be responsive to that its no longer an offical relationshiop yet tell her you fairly do love her and which you do no longer decide for to lose her. additionally tell her that hidding issues from you is bothering you. additionally permit her be responsive to which you do in contrast to feeling which you're being strung alongside (which i think of she is doing.) i additionally dont comprehend why she could permit you be responsive to she loves then you definately is going and spends time together with her ex. basically tell her that she doesnt could desire to conceal issues from you yet in addition permit her be responsive to it upsets you while she does. If i've got been you i could have a sit down and ask her if in spite of you adult men have occurring is going to instruct intense or no longer. i could additionally ask if she is basically utilising you because of the fact the back up guy. in case you fairly fall for her and he or she is basically fidgeting with you you will basically get injury, lose her, and her brother as a chum. i could be carefull and rather refer to her approximately this and if she cant be mature approximately this and ordinary then you fairly could desire to smash it off in the previous any extra injury is achieved.

Answer 4

thats life

Answer 5

circles are fun

Answer 6

life's a b_itch then you die.