Well, we started off in July 2006, and just recently she broke it off out of nowhere. Then a couple days after the fact, she told me that she had cheated on me. This guy friend she hardly knew initiated it, he got his way for a short while before she stopped it. The irony was that he only accomplished that, no kissing or other kinds of touching. This was like a one night stand and she feels totally disgusted with her own behavior. Right now, she says she wants to be with me and only me, but just not right now. She still talks about marrying me and all that, but she wanted me to give her some time to forgive herself for this, before my forgiving her is an issue. I told her, I'll be her friend in the mean time, and we'll see later on. But I'm leaning towards giving her another chance, since it was a mistake. It's bad, but I'm just not sure.
I'll be checking back here often, so anyone can ask questions for me to clarify the situation.
2007-03-04 06:40:12 · 14 answers · asked by Khamé 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He didn't just "get his way." Your girlfriend is not the victim here, because it takes two people for something like this to happen. Sure, go ahead a forgive her to clear your mind, but only regard her as a casual acquaintance in the future. As stated above, I know it sounds cliche, but "once a cheater, always a cheater."
2007-03-04 06:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she knew what she was doing when she was in the situation with the other guy. She knew she was in a relationship with you and that behavior was totally unacceptable. I feel that if she really had deep and true feelings for you she would never have cheated in the first place. It's like they say once a cheater always a cheater. Also if you get back with her she will probably end up cheating on you again and the other saying foul me once shame on you foul me twice shame on me. I would move on before things get worse and you are in too deep.
2007-03-04 06:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to those that say a person never changes!
i was in the exact situation as your girlfriend.
the thing is, the way relationships are these days there is so much uncertainty, people date again and again to find the 'one' but when we do find it we think we've made a mistake.
your girlfriend was probably confused, lost, and maybe subconciously scared of being in a permanent relationship with you. everyone deserves a second chance if they've realised what they truley want afterwards. look at it like a journey of self discovery for her. you may not be at the point of having any kind of midlife crisis but you might one day and if that day comes you would want another chance to rectify any mistakes you did whilst going through that time.
i know i went through the same thing and after my partner took me back i stayed faithful.
2007-03-04 06:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would dump her because she gave little or no regard for you or your relationship, it's always been amazing to me that when someone does something seriously wrong like cheating they think SORRY will fix it and make it right. In real life it doesn't work like that maybe in the movies. Also it will always be in the back of your mind that she cheated and over time it will eat away at you. Every time she goes out you will wonder about it. Just move on....
2007-03-04 06:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on how you really feel about her. If you truly love her and you really think that this was a mistake then give the relationship time. Only time will tell, be friends for now and in time her true colors will come out. One way or another!
2007-03-04 06:47:05 · answer #5 · answered by Rhonda B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although, the first answer is correct i think and that an example is going to help: my friend sam and dylan went out. He cheated on her and broke up with her. Then he was all "inoccent" and wanted to go out with her AGAIN! The same thing kept repeated and finally ended for the 7th time!!! he took advantage of her and i dont think u should be taken advangage of. SCREW HER SHE HAD HER CHANCE AND SHE PROB. JUST WANTS SOMEONE TO START A LIFE WITH!!! she is so not worth it.
2007-03-04 06:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not only a cheater but a liar, she is keeping you on the sideline so she can decide about him, she still thinks of him and wants to see what hapens in that dept first, you are her 2nd choice--she will alwasy be like this--no woman needs time to forgive herself--how lame, and you fell for that remark?
she will try to use you to make him jealous and by thy way--no kissing or hugging --only sex!! are you an insane person?
what is a kiss? she gave herself to him with her genitles -what's more intimate that that?
2007-03-04 06:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I don't know ...I know it's hard for you, you might be able to cope with that for a while ....because, by cheating on you, she breaks something in the relationship: the trust .... you might not be able to trust her anymore, because you will always think she will cheat on you on her spare time without you ...but, the fact she 's done shows how much she is not committed to you ...but, the fact she asked for forgiveness shows that maybe she regretted that ....and knows now that you are the one she loves now ...but, if you can't forgive her, and have issues on that, you should probably make a move and leave her ...!! it could be unhealthy for you to stay in that relationship ..!!
2007-03-04 06:47:17 · answer #8 · answered by bobby s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you can forgive her for her mistake and not resent her for it so that it leads to you losing your feelings towards her. That and if you really love her but make her prove that she'll be faithful again, work for your trust again. You'll know what she's about if she proves to you that she means what she says.
2007-03-04 06:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, try to ride this relationship for a couple more weeks. If she cheats again, dump her. You'll eventually find a girl who'll enjoy having you around and will never cheat on you.
2007-03-04 06:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by resse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋