A parent in my sons class moved her child to the school as she was being bullied.I then heard that actually this child was the bully.Today the child kept coming to the mother saying so and so pushed me this happend a few times the mother then went off and told the other child off .Her daughter then came over saying another child did something to her.I told my son to stay away from her he said shes not my friend and he does not play with her anyway.I watched the children and she is actually the one who does the pushing ect ! st.I like the mum do you think I should just avoid them altogether?
2007-03-04 06:34:47 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
be friendly and polite if you absolutely have to, but steer clear whenever you can
2007-03-04 06:42:52 · answer #1 · answered by jasonbourne421 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your son to keep away, however the woman should not be telling other people's children off, kids argue all the time but dealing with it is how you grow, if she is fighting her daughters battles all the time then how is her daughter ever going to make friends, if she truly was bullied before and is worried about it then she should be talking to the parents of the children now, that way they can talk to their kids and get their version, her daughters version of events may not be the truth but if she blindly believes her all the time and starts throwing her weight around with people smaller than herself then she is being a bully. I would speak to her if she's a friend and tell her that although you realise that she's worried about her daughter being bullied you think she may be handling it the wrong way and offer to come with her to talk to the pupils involved parents and sort it out in a constructive way, if she hears the other side of the story, she may realise that her daughter isn't whiter than white
2007-03-04 15:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe this little girls mum needs to be told that it is actually her daughter doing the bulling and has for having a go at the other child who does she think she is? talk to the childs parent frist how old is this girl? it might be that she likes the attention and knows that her mother will panda to her but then the mother sounds like a bully to shes probably just learnt it from her it probably be a good thing just to stay away
2007-03-04 18:30:25 · answer #3 · answered by jen 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you like the mother then stick by her, this situation doesnt make her a bad person and if she is having difficulty with her child then people turning their back on her is only adding insult to injury. Look at it this way if it was the other way round how would you feel if people turned against you? Some children who are being bullied or have been bullied can then turn into a bully. Support this woman and have a gentle chat with her offer advice where needed. good luck
2007-03-04 15:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really think that i would,it does sound like she knows what her daughter is all about but is not going to correct her.And i would bet if you would bring the subject up that you see her daughter pushing other kids and they have done nothing to her then she would get really ticked at you and you would see a side of her that you would no longer like.But that is an ideal try it to see how it goes if she reacts like her daughter does no wrong and gets ticked at you then you dont have to worry about avoiding her at all the problem has solved it's self.Hope this helps and good luck
2007-03-04 14:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should let the school know what is happenning, if you have noticed it then why havent they?
Good idea keep your son away from the trouble, and if the mother approaches you some day. i'd suggest you tell her a few truthful facts. Also don't forget a child mirrors their family so god knows whats happening behind her closed doors
2007-03-04 14:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by lushmum 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the child is desperate for attention and sees this as a way of getting her mother's attention.
I would avoid her, it can't be easy for the mother but you need to ensure your son comes first and you don't put him in a difficult situation as well.
2007-03-04 15:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by Bugs 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would try to stay out of it. If something happens between your son and this child, I would then talk to the parents. I know it might be hard, but you just have to let what is going to happen, to happen in its own way.
2007-03-04 14:39:35 · answer #8 · answered by lillizzybug 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You won't be able to avoid her forever, imagine you are the parent of a bully, and you know it but you want to avoid facing it. That is what she is going through at the moment. Make a decision are you going to support her or not. Once you have made your choice stick by it. Maybe the mom needs someone to bounce ideas off and support her in educating her child.
2007-03-04 14:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by gaviscon 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Avoid them? You should tell her to watch her child. And that she shouldn't be disciplining other children when it's her daughter's fault. This woman sounds like she needs a wake up call, either she doesn't pay enough attention to her child or she's in denial.
2007-03-04 14:43:43 · answer #10 · answered by Like Nothing Else 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As long as your son is kept out of it I wouldn't get involved, its hard watching behaviour like that and not getting wound up about it but definately best to steer clear sounds like its only a matter of time before someone who is involved does something about it
2007-03-04 14:48:11 · answer #11 · answered by emma529005 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋